Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success | Louise Evans | TEDxGenova (2)
to look at other perspectives,
to embrace other realities,
to embrace diversity,
and to become tolerant.
And the most important question in this chair is what is important
for him or her in front of me?
And the intention in this chair is to stay connected whatever happens.
So these are the chairs.
How do we translate this into daily life?
Well, you can imagine, if you go to work,
maybe you can go, and you give a presentation,
and it goes really well.
So you are here, thinking, "Great, fantastic!"
Then, maybe you have a meeting and things go badly,
and we sink into these chairs.
Now our challenge every day is to understand how to find the balance
between sitting here and sitting here.
Because if we're sitting here, life is not that happy.
But if we're sitting here, in these chairs,
we're more rational; we're more open;
we're more intelligent; we're more thoughtful.
Something that really moved me very very deeply when I first read it
was this: Viktor Frankl, in his book Man's Search for Meaning,
said, "Everything can be taken from man but one thing.
The last of human freedoms -
to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances."
This is so powerful.
So when you next want to snap at your children,
or argue with your partner,
or punish someone at work,
try and come into this chair here and think.
And if by chance, you end up in this chair -
which very often happens -
can we find the courage to say "I'm sorry"
and make everything right again?
So, my invitation to you is to take these chairs home with you.
Play with them. Make them your own.
Teach them to your kids; they get this immediately.
Put five of them in the boardroom at work
and watch how your meetings will improve.
And the next time somebody presses one of your red buttons,
just think: five chairs, five choices.
Can we all commit to making our homes,
our workplaces, and this world a better place?
One behavior at a time.
Thank you.
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