"Ne mogu više ovako, HOĆU SVE ISPOČETKA" „Ich kann das nicht mehr, ich möchte ganz von vorne anfangen“ "I can't do this anymore, I WANT TO START ALL OVER" "Não aguento mais isso, QUERO COMEÇAR TUDO DE NOVO" «Я больше не могу, ХОЧУ НАЧАТЬ ВСЕ НАЧАЛО»

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kako da kreirate posao i život koji ćete da obožavate.

U današnjem videu radi se o tome

kako da okrenete drugi list how to turn the other leaf

i da počnete sve od nule ispočetka. and start all over from scratch.

I to sam ja radila više puta u mom životu And I did that many times in my life

u različitim oblastima života in different areas of life

i mogu da kažem da sam stručnjak u tome. and I can say that I am an expert at it.

Primetila sam posle dugog niza godina I noticed after a long series of years

rađenja raznih početaka making various beginnings

da tu postoji neka struktura i nešto što that there is some structure and something that

mogu da vam kažem u nekoliko koraka I can tell you in a few steps

šta da uradite ako ste rešili what to do if you have solved

da porušite mostove to destroy bridges

i da krenete skroz ispočetka. and start all over again.

Najčešće se to dešava This happens most often

kada na primer ljudi when for example people

dobiju otkaz ili daju otkaz, get fired or quit,

jer ne mogu više, because I can't anymore

kada ih napusti partner ili sami reše when their partner leaves them or they decide on their own

da se razvedu, jer ni tu ne mogu više,

ali u svakom slučaju

dešava se kada nešto u životu dođe da čovek kaže: "Ne mogu više!" it happens when something happens in life that makes a person say: "I can't do it anymore!"

"Ne mogu više, želim sve iz početka" i okrene novi list. "I can't do it anymore, I want everything from the beginning" and turned over a new leaf.

U tom slučaju,

ja vam predlažem nekoliko koraka I suggest a few steps

Prvi korak koji bih vam predložila je

da dozvolite tim osećanjima to allow those feelings

šta god da se dešava: bilo da ste ljuti, besni, tužni... whatever is happening: whether you are angry, furious, sad...

da dozvolite osećanjima

da ih proživite. Vrlo često ljudi to live them. Very often people

to potiskuju. Znači, pritisnu svoja osećanja they suppress it. So, they suppress their feelings

i prave se da im nije ništa. and pretend it's nothing to them.

Ja to stvarno znam iz svog iskustva. I really know that from my own experience.

Kada sam otišla prvi put da živim u nemačku, bila sam jako tužna When I went to live in Germany for the first time, I was very sad

jer mi je sve nedostajalo because I missed everything

i to sam jako potiskivala and I suppressed it very much

i to je posle izlazilo na raznim mestima and it was later published in various places

i sprečavalo me da brzo and it prevented me from quickly

uspem u tome što sam započela I succeed in what I started

a kada sam postala mnogo pametnija and when I became much smarter

i kasnije kada je moj muž našao drugu and later when my husband found another

posle 20 godina braka, after 20 years of marriage,

moj bivši muž, naravno, my ex husband of course

meni je trebalo nekoliko meseci da se saberem it took me a few months to pull myself together

ali sam se relativno brzo sabrala but I pulled myself together relatively quickly

i dozvolila sebi da and allowed herself to

budem tužna zbog toga i da I will be sad about that and yes

krenem da se bavim time na način koji je I'm going to deal with it the way it is

meni obezbeđivao da najbrže moguće I ensured that as quickly as possible

okrenem drugi list i I turn the other page and

napravim nešto novo od svog života. make something new out of my life.

Zato vama predlažem: dozvolite osećanja That's why I suggest you: allow your feelings

ako ste tužni, budite tužni if you're sad, be sad

ako ste besni, budite besni

Znači, jednostavno dozvolite sebi So, simply allow yourself

šta god da je trenutno tu i nemojte to potiskivati. whatever is there right now and don't suppress it.

I porazgovarajte s nekim. And talk to someone.

Najbolje bi bilo da porazgovarate s nekim It would be best to talk to someone

ko vas razume i who understands you and

da jednostavno možete da pustite da izađe to što se nakupilo that you can simply let out what has built up

a ako nemate nekoga s kim biste mogli lepo da razgovarate o tome, and if you don't have someone to talk to about it nicely,

onda bi bilo dobro da uzmete jednu sveščicu i da pišete. then it would be good to take a notebook and write.

Pišite sve što vam padne na pamet Write everything that comes to your mind

ta osećanja izrazite, neka to izađe napolje i express those feelings, let them come out and

vama će biti mnogo lakše nakon izvesnog vremena. it will be much easier for you after some time.

Pišite dan, dva, tri, pet...

mesec dana... pišite dokle god a month... write as long as you can

vam to izlazi, šta god. you get it, whatever.

Pišite ako hoćete nekom nešto da kažete, ako biste nešto Write if you want to say something to someone, if you would like something

nekom nešto rekli, a niste mu rekli you said something to someone and you didn't tell him

Znači, pišite, pišite, neka vam se duša rastereti So, write, write, let your soul be relieved

Znači, prva i osnovna stvar je važna da dozvolite ta osećanja So, the first and most important thing is to allow those feelings

i da rasteretite svoju dušu toga, da jednostavno and to relieve your soul of it, yes simply

to nekako izađe iz vas it somehow comes out of you

kako biste mogli da svoju budućnost

kreirate bez tog tereta you create without that burden

Ako to nosite kao teret sa sobom, If you carry it as a burden with you,

biće vam jako teško da započnete nove stvari it will be very difficult for you to start new things

jer će stalno ta osećanja i because those feelings will constantly and

to nedorečeno, neiskazano that vague, unexpressed

neiživljeno... da vas nekako koči. unlived... to hold you back somehow.

i da vam predstavlja problem.

Zato je važno da prvo to uradite That's why it's important to do that first

da se rasteretite. to relieve yourself.

Kao prvo, rasterećenje. Firstly, relief.

Zatim predlažem kao drugi korak da dozvolite sebi pauzu. Then I suggest as a second step that you allow yourself a break.

Pauza je jako važna. Da dozvolite sebi pauzu u kojoj

ne morate odmah da trčite u sledeću vezu you don't have to run to the next connection right away

ili u sledeći posao.

Zaista vrlo često se dešava da ljudi idu iz jedne veze u drugu. It really happens very often that people go from one relationship to another.

I ništa im nije bolje u sledećoj. And nothing is better for them in the next one.

Iz jednog posla u drugi i ne vole ni onaj They go from one job to another and they don't even like that one

sledeći i sve tako. the next and so on.

I onda nikako ne mogu sebi da dozvole jednu pauzu And then they can't afford to take a break

da se saberu. to get together.

Da razmisle šta u stvari hoće. To think about what they really want.

Jer to je u stvari sledeći korak.

Prvo ide rasterećenje od prošlosti First comes relief from the past

pauza u sadašnjosti a pause in the present

i sledeći korak je fokus na budućnost.

Pre nego što pređete na plan za budućnost, Before moving on to plan for the future,

u sadašnjosti, u toj pauzi u kojoj in the present, in that pause in which

sebi dozvolite malo prostora, allow yourself some space,

napravite neka iskustva uspeha make some experiences of success

Isprobajte nešto novo i Try something new and

vidite da u tom novom napravite neki uspeh. see that you make some success in that new one.

kako biste imali doživljaj uspeha in order to experience success

koji će vam davati samopouzdanje i hrabrost which will give you confidence and courage

da uradite nešto novo od svog života. to do something new with your life.

Pa ne znam, ako ste zbog posla Well, I don't know, if you're here for work

stalno bili odsutni i niste mogli you were constantly away and you couldn't

da učestvujete u nečemu što bi vama bilo važno to participate in something that would be important to you

uradite to sada.

Ako ste se zbog braka odricali nekih drugih stvari If you gave up some other things for the sake of marriage

koje su vam bile isto važne that were just as important to you

ali ste pristali da ih se odreknete, but you agreed to give them up,

uradite sada to. Na primer, upišite do it now For example, type

kurs kuvanja ili cooking course or

ne znam, vozite rolere ili I don't know, you ride rollerblades or

radite nešto što ste hteli da radite, a niste nikako mogli, niste stigli you are doing something you wanted to do, but you couldn't, you didn't get there

i dozvolite sebi te male and allow yourself those little ones

uspehe svakodnevne daily successes

korak po korak, kako biste gradili step by step, how to build

svoje samopouzdanje za budućnost koja dolazi. your confidence for the future to come.

I kad krenete na budućnost, da se bavite njome, And when you go to the future, to deal with it,

sledeći korak je da napravite plan. the next step is to make a plan.

Znači, napravite plan za budućnost.

i to ne onako: "Šta ja još u ovim godinama mogu??" and not in the way: "What else can I do at this age??"

"Pa šta je još meni ostalo od života?" NE! "So what else is left of my life?" NOT!

Nego napravite plan: kada bi sve sile ovog sveta bile u vašim rukama, But make a plan: if all the powers of this world were in your hands,

kako biste onda živeli? how would you live then?

Razmislite makar o tome.

Dozvolite sebi da sanjate! Allow yourself to dream!

Ne morate razmisliti kako ćete to You don't have to think about how you're going to do it

nego prvo za početak, moj predlog but first, to begin with, my suggestion

je da bude prvi korak is to be the first step

koji ima veze sa budućnošću which has to do with the future

da sanjate,

da dozvolite sebi da razmislite

kakav bi to život bio kada biste mogli sve da birate. what would life be like if you could choose everything.

da barem dozvolite sebi to at least allow yourself

da razmislite. Ako već rušite mostove, ako već krećete to think. If you are already breaking bridges, if you are already moving

u novi život, zamislite kako bi on mogao da izgleda kada bi into a new life, imagine what it might look like if it did

sve bilo na vašoj strani. everything was on your side.

I znam, kada zamislite stvari koje su stvarno fenomenalne

javiće se strahovi. fears will arise.

I sledeći korak

koji ja vama zaista predlažem da which I really suggest you to

uradite je da do it yes

nađete način da prevaziđete strahove. you find a way to overcome your fears.

Predlažem da odvojite

stvarnu opasnost real danger

od vašeg iracionalnog straha. from your irrational fear.

Ja stvarno znam kako je počinjati iz početka. I really know what it's like to start over.

Čovek bude prestravljen. Ja sam bila prestravljena The man is terrified. I was terrified

kada sam se razvela u 48. godini when I got divorced at the age of 48

ja sam bila prestravljena od budućnosti, od života. I was terrified of the future, of life.

I stvarno znam koliko mi je bilo teško

da prevaziđem strah da ne ostanem sama to overcome the fear of not being alone

strah da ću naći nekog ko će da me povredi fear that I will find someone who will hurt me

strah od ovoga ili od onoga. fear of this or that.

Ali onda sam lepo sela i napravila But then I sat down and made it

to i vama predlažem: I suggest that to you too:

s jedne strane napišite sve čega se plašite. on one side write everything you fear.

a s druge strane napišite na skali od 0 do 10

kolika je opasnost od toga. what is the danger of that.

Kolika je opasnost da vam se nešto desi?

Bože moj!

Može da se desi, ne znam, da upoznate nekoga You might, I don't know, meet someone

i da on nije taj pravi,

ali kolika je opasnost od toga? Šta vama može da se desi ako on nije pravi?

Pa ništa. Mislim, u principu, ne može ništa da vam se desi.

Znam da imate strah od toga, ali

ali ne može ništa da se desi. Ja sam tako napisala: but nothing can happen. I wrote like this:

"Možda upoznam nekog ko nije taj pravi". "Maybe I'll meet someone who isn't the right one".

Opasnost, prava opasnost po mene, po moj život, po moju sigurnost

bi bila šta? Nula!

Okej, upoznaću nekog, konstatovaću da nije taj - nula. Okay, I'll meet someone, I'll make sure it's not him - zero.

Ali ako ništa ne uradim, ako me strah parališe, But if I do nothing, if fear paralyzes me,

nikad neću imati šansu da pronađem nekoga ko jeste pravi. i will never have a chance to find someone who is real.

Zato je važno da odvojite That's why it's important to separate

ono što je vaš iracionalni strah, what your irrational fear is,

napišite sve što vas plaši, sve čega se bojite, write everything that scares you, everything that you are afraid of,

od racionalnog, stvarnog

stvarne opasnosti po vas i po vaš život. real danger to you and your life.

Znači, napišite na skali od nula do deset So, write on a scale of zero to ten

šta predstavlja stvarnu, realnu opasnost? what constitutes a real, realistic danger?

I onda će vam biti lakše. And then it will be easier for you.

Jer strah parališe nas. Because fear paralyzes us.

i onda nam ne da da uradimo čak ni ono što bismo mogli i što bi nam bilo lako, and then he doesn't let us do even what we could and would be easy for us,

a što bi moglo naš život enormno da unapredi and which could improve our life enormously

i znajući ovo da mnogi ljudi zaista and knowing this that many people really

gore za tim, žele da okrenu novi list worse for that, they want to turn over a new leaf

ne mogu više, ne mogu više da trpe,

brakove koji su loši, ne mogu više da trpe marriages that are bad, they can no longer tolerate

poslove na koje, kad ustanu ujutru, boli ih glava jobs that give them a headache when they get up in the morning

stomak, želudac, ne ide im se više. stomach, stomach, they don't feel like it anymore.

Okrenuli bi novi list, ali ne znaju kako. They would turn over a new leaf, but they don't know how.

Evo, ja sam vam dala nekoliko koraka, Here, I gave you a few steps,

I verujem da ovo može da vam pomogne, And I believe this can help you,

i naravno, ako želite više i intenzivnije da radite na sebi, and of course, if you want to work more and more intensively on yourself,

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mojih edukacija koje vam pružaju podršku

u raznim oblastima vašeg života in various areas of your life

gde možete zaista intenzivno da radite na sebi

i da pomognete sebi, kao što su mnogi polaznici and to help yourself, as many trainees do

mojih edukacija uz moju podršku preokrenuli tok svojih života of my education, with my support, turned the course of their lives around

i preporodili se. and were reborn.

Ja se nadam da vas vidim na nekoj od edukacija, I hope to see you at one of the trainings,

a ako vam je ovaj video bio koristan,

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i da okrenu drugi list u svom životu, and to turn a new leaf in their life,

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