6 Psychological Tricks To Make People Like You IMMEDIATELY 6 psychologických triků, díky kterým se lidé IHNED budou líbit 6 psychologische Tricks, um Menschen SOFORT wie dich zu machen 6 ψυχολογικά κόλπα για να κάνετε τους ανθρώπους να σας συμπαθήσουν ΑΜΕΣΑ 6 trucos psicológicos para caerle bien a la gente INMEDIATAMENTE 6 trucchi psicologici per piacere IMMEDIATAMENTE alle persone 6 truques psicológicos para fazer com que as pessoas gostem de si IMEDIATAMENTE 6 психологических приемов, которые позволят вам НЕЗАМЕДЛИТЕЛЬНО понравиться людям 6 психологічних прийомів, які допоможуть вам одразу сподобатися людям 让别人立刻喜欢你的 6 个心理技巧 讓人們立即喜歡你的 6 個心理技巧

We don't always realize it but it is often in very small moments that people decide whether they like us or whether they don't Ne vždy si to uvědomujeme, ale často ve velmi malých okamžicích se lidé rozhodnou, zda nás mají rádi nebo ne Wir merken es nicht immer, aber oft entscheiden Menschen in sehr kleinen Momenten, ob sie uns mögen oder nicht and that is why in this video, I want to give you 6 things that you can use to make people like you immediately. und deshalb möchte ich dir in diesem Video 6 Dinge an die Hand geben, mit denen du Menschen sofort dazu bringen kannst, dich zu mögen. Starting with the first one, a very specific type of compliment

because you're not going to compliment people on what they have, protože nebudeš chválit lidi za to, co mají,

you're going to compliment people on what they've earned and worked for.

The truth about compliments is, yes, it feels amazing

when people compliment us; of course, we like that.

But when it comes to compliments, it often turns out to be

that people are hearing the same ones over and over.

For instance, maybe they have really nice eyes or they have a good sense of style and when they start to hear that over and over, it can become something that doesn't mean much to them.

If you can be the person that finds out what they are working on

and notices that while they're still working and struggling

and then compliments them on that, it will hit them so hard.

And I actually, first noticed this because there was a day where I got

two compliments in the same day — it was a good day — and one of them,

the first one was on my smile and I appreciated that and said, "Thank you."

But I've had the same smile since I was a kid and I've received compliments

on it before; I appreciate that and it makes me feel good

but it's not something I've earned.

Later that day, I don't know if I was singing or what but somebody said

that they thought that I had a good singing voice and

the truth is — I'm not an amazing singer but I have worked very, very hard

on improving my voice and that compliment made me like that person so much

because they were noticing something that I was struggling with

which, a shameless plug right here, if you want to listen @CharlieHoupert on Instagram.

But the point here besides following me on Instagram to listen to me sing

is that if you can be the person that notices that — for instance, you've got a friend

and they are just starting a diet routine and you say, "You know what? I notice

you're actually looking thinner like it seems like you've lost some pounds.

You're doing a great job," or you've got someone in your office that is working hard

and perhaps you're at a school and a student that you see putting in extra time

and you can let them know that you appreciate that work ethic, that's going to hit them

because that's what they're struggling with and that's where they would really appreciate

recognition and of course, they're going to appreciate you for that.

The second thing here is going to be to get people talking about what they love.

Now, of course this is an old standard but how do you get here?

There's two main questions — first off, how do you like that?

And what is it specifically that you love or like about that thing?

So early in conversation, people will often ask what do you do,

where have you been lately or if you've seen any good movies.

With all of these questions, no matter what topic you're on,

if you can go, "How did you like it?" and then if they don't say that it's awesome,

you can move on but assuming they do, say, "Oh, really? Tell me, what did you like about it? What did you love about it?" If you can do that and drive down deeper and they share with you what they love,

they're going to associate you with that amazing feeling.

And I've seen this happen to me; you get me talking about comic books —

The Avengers just came out and I share what to you what I know about that,

I'm going to really enjoy my conversation with you and I'm going to like you as a result.

So make sure that you're doing that. This is a really good way to engage in active listening,

you're paying attention for things that they like and to have a conversation that allows you to ping-pong on something that they care about and hopefully that you care about as well. Ping-Pong über etwas zu machen, das ihnen wichtig ist und das Sie hoffentlich auch interessiert.

The third thing is a bit counterintuitive here.

It's going to be to share a truth that is to your detriment. Bit će to dijeljenje istine koja je na vašu štetu.

And I actually first came across this by accident because what's happening is

we have a lot of students who watch our channel which I'm very happy with

and we also have an online course that is $600 so

I was getting emails from these students basically saying,

"Hey. I would really like to join Charisma University but my situation is such that

my finances are not there yet, I'm really tight on rent, I barely afforded books moje financije još nisu tamo, stvarno sam tijesan sa stanarinom, jedva sam si priuštio knjige

this semester and I just wanted to know if you think that relationships are important?

Should I buy this right now?" and I would typically write back,

"You know what? I do think relationships are important but I think paying your rent

and making sure that you're able to afford books this semester is more

important than that for you at least right now at this point in your life so

while I do hope that you come back, I don't think that this is right for you right now."

And oftentimes, that would lose the sale. This is not someone I just where told them そして多くの場合、それは売り上げを失うことになります。これは私がどこで彼らに言った人ではありません

not to buy and they're not going to turn out and say, "Haha! Tricked ya. I'm going to do this anyway." But I would receive an email back that said, "I appreciate that so much. I really do

want to come back but this just lets me know that you're being honest on your channel

when you're sharing these ideas and these principles and these mindsets with us

because you're forcing this down my throat in an attempt to make more money." weil Sie mir das in den Hals zwingen, um mehr Geld zu verdienen."

If you can do that — if you can be honest with people about what you think is Wenn du das kannst – wenn du ehrlich zu den Leuten sein kannst, was du denkst

in their best interest even when it isn't in yours — because you might have to leave

money on the table if you're in a sales position when you do this —

if you do that and you put honesty as your highest principle and beneath that is

getting everything that you want all the time, people will notice it,

they will appreciate it and they will like you for it which brings to the fourth thing.

This one is perhaps even more immediate than all of the others and that is open body language. So your body language is the first thing that people see about you

and unfortunately, it is in the moments where we most need open body language that und leider brauchen wir gerade in den Momenten eine offene Körpersprache am meisten

we tend to close it down and I'm thinking of dates and interviews when we're nervous. Wir neigen dazu, es zu schließen, und ich denke an Verabredungen und Interviews, wenn wir nervös sind.

You go on a date or you see someone you like and hands go right to your pockets

or they go like this and it's that protective reaction — you don't want to be seen or you don't want to get rejected. If you can force yourself in these moments to put your hands out of the pockets

or uncrossed, the person that you're talking to is going to know on a subconscious level

or at least feel that you are not so much of a physical threat. oder zumindest das Gefühl haben, dass Sie keine so große physische Bedrohung darstellen.

This is hardwired in us; we're checking if this person has a weapon, is this person

trying to hurt me or, "What is going on that they're fidgeting with?"

If you show them that there's nothing just the way that you communicate,

that's gonna put them at ease and it's going to make them like you much more.

The fifth one which actually comes from a friend of mine and he was here the other night.

He is a cartoonist. He works and works; he created every vowel Er ist Karikaturist. Er arbeitet und arbeitet; er erschuf jeden Vokal

and Zappos just purchased big murals of his cartoons and he went to go hang them up. und Zappos kaufte gerade große Wandbilder seiner Cartoons und ging los, um sie aufzuhängen.

And before he did, he got this job and he had the payment and they were in exchange;

there's gonna be a fair business exchange and he said, "I want to do something else,"

and this is the fifth point — exceed expectations without asking permission.

So he said, "I want to do something else for them. What can I do?"

We brainstorm for awhile and we came up with, "What if you took shoes"

because they're Zappos "and you put your cartoons on them and you gave them to the executive team?" and that's what he did. weil sie Zappos sind, "und Sie haben Ihre Cartoons darauf geklebt und Sie haben sie dem Führungsteam gegeben?" und das tat er. Today he went in, he hung the mural, and then he had a surprise of these shoes.

And the mural was well-received but it was in going above and beyond what he agreed to

do without telling them he was going to do it that really made an impact.

They went out afterwards, they took him to a bar, they all put on their shoes, and were really excited. And the truth is that when people are trading and exchanging

and they have an expectation then okay, that's fine and really nice

but when you go above and beyond that and they're not aware that it's happening,

that's where the biggest impact is made.

So for instance, you have a group project. You're sitting in a room, you're hungry,

and you go out to pick up some food but you happen to know

perhaps the meal that your partner likes and you just pick it up and bring it back for them,

holy cow, will that make an impression on them

especially if you get to know the people in your life well enough

that you know their basic likes and dislikes and if you're not sure and you're just going to

the vending machine, everybody will drink water, you can of course ask people,

"What would you like me to get you?" and that is polite and people appreciate

when people are polite and thoughtful but it's really when you do it without

them knowing that they get their minds blown.

So see if you can do that especially with the people in your life

where you already have a good sense of their likes and dislikes.

If you can just be running when you're at the grocery store next time,

pick them up something that you know that they might have been hankering for

that they don't have at the moment; that will go a long way.

So the last one is going to be — to be the first person to joke.

This is number six and it's one that I often times can let go of.

If I'm in my room and I'm working all day, I can get into a very literal mode and in fact, Wenn ich in meinem Zimmer bin und den ganzen Tag arbeite, kann ich in einen sehr wörtlichen Modus geraten und tatsächlich

there's lots of times in our life where we feel like we have to be solemn and somber.

There was a student in the C.U. message boards on Facebook and he was talking about

how there was this big presentation; it was like 20 teachers and professors and faculty —

I don't know the exact scenario — but it was a daunting scenario No conozco el escenario exacto - pero era un escenario desalentador

and he was actually going to give some critical feedback to them.

But one of the things that he did and I think at the suggestion of the group

was to crack a joke early. fue soltar un chiste antes de tiempo.

And by doing that — he cracked the joke — he cut the tension Y al hacer eso, soltó el chiste, cortó la tensión...

in this really serious situation, he got people to laugh, and he said that he found that en esta situación realmente seria, hizo reír a la gente, y dijo que encontró que

people were much more receptive to some of his more critical moments

because he had that human interaction with him first.

I see this everywhere. I was just taking a walk the other day with my brother

and he's got this little King Charles Cavalier and oftentimes, I can be out there und er hat diesen kleinen King Charles Cavalier und oft kann ich da draußen sein

taking a walk and people ask me, "What kind of dog?" and I say it's a King Charles Cavalier,

he's three years old, his name is Ollie... and it's a very routine interaction.

The other day, he was out walking him and somebody started and I knew what

they were gonna say and before they did, he said, "Attack!"

and the dog ran up and he's a little guys so he's not gonna hurt anybody

but everyone laughed and then it set a tone; it was a very short interaction pero todo el mundo se rió y entonces se estableció un tono; fue una interacción muy corta

but it brightened everybody's day and it made me realize something

that I know and I have to be reminded of is that people are humans

before they are polite members of society or teachers or food servers

and they almost always — there's perhaps outside of like a funeral setting — appreciate humor and laughter. und sie schätzen Humor und Lachen fast immer – es gibt vielleicht auch etwas außerhalb wie bei einer Beerdigung. So if you could be the first one to joke, it will absolutely make people like you.

So those are six things that you can use throughout your interactions

but you might want something a little bit more structured

and that's why actually there are four emotions and these six things are hitting on

different elements of each of these four but if you hit these four emotions and

you hit them in order, you will guarantee an amazing first impression

on whoever you are talking to pretty much cross-culturally.

We've actually set up a video that talks about what those four emotions are

and if you want to see that, go ahead click the link in the description or

somewhere around here and you will be taken to a page.

Go ahead and drop your email and you can watch that video right now

and start using those four emotions today so I hope that you've enjoyed this video.

Also, tomorrow 11:00 a.m. Pacific time, on our Facebook page,

we are going to have a Facebook live Q&A; it can be about this topic or

any other we did it last week and it was super fun; I had a great time.

So if you want to join, you can either follow us on our Charisma on Command Instagram

or our Facebook or @CharlieHoupert on Instagram where I sing

and that is gonna be where you can ask questions.

So I hope that you enjoyed this video and I look forward to seeing you in the next one. Así que espero que hayas disfrutado de este vídeo y espero verte en el próximo.