GLUPE reči koje NIKADA ne treba da govorimo DUMME Worte, die wir NIEMALS sagen sollten STUPID words we should NEVER say 我們永遠不該說的愚蠢的話

Dragi moji dobro mi došli! My dears, welcome!

Ovo je moj YouTube kanal, ja sam Slavica This is my YouTube channel, I'm Slavica

i ja sam NLP trener. I am also an NLP trainer.

NLP znači Neuro-Lingvističko Programiranje NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming

i danas ću vam govoriti o moći upotrebe određenih reči. and today I will talk to you about the power of using certain words.

Naročito ću vam govoriti o tome šta je zaista glupo da govorite In particular, I will tell you about what is really stupid to say

da izgovarate i daću vam nekoliko primera to pronounce and I will give you some examples

tako da znate da ne treba nikad da koristite te reči so you know you should never use those words

a naročito ne onda kada želite da ostavite dobar utisak. and especially not when you want to make a good impression.

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kako biste saznali šta je sve to što ne bi trebalo nikada da izgovarate. to find out what it is that you should never say.

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Prva stvar koju želim da vam kažem i koju ne treba nikad da koristite je The first thing I want to tell you that you should never use is

"ZNALA SAM!" "I KNEW!"

Znala sam! I knew!

Kad kažete nekom: "Znala sam!" When you say to someone: "I knew!"

onda, u stvari, na neki način vi ponižavate tu osobu. then, in fact, in a way you are humiliating that person.

Kao, vi ste znali od početka, ali niste hteli da kažete Like, you knew from the beginning, but you didn't want to say

Znali ste da je glupa. You knew she was stupid.

Naročito nemojte to govoriti ljudima koji su Especially don't tell people who are

se opekli o nešto, koji su pogrešili nešto. burned themselves on something, who did something wrong.

kojima se nešto desilo to whom something happened

za šta vi kažete: "Znala sam!" for which you say: "I knew!"

"E, znala sam da će to tako biti!" "Well, I knew it would be like that!"

"Unapred sam znala". "I knew in advance".

Nemojte to govoriti. To je jako glupo! Don't say that. That is very stupid!

I nije lepo prema ljudima, jer se na neki način postavljate kao da ste iznad njih. And it's not nice to people, because in a way you put yourself as if you are above them.

Da ste pametniji, da ste bolji od njih. That you are smarter, that you are better than them.

Zato vam to ne treba. That's why you don't need it.

Takođe, šta ne treba nikad da izgovarate je Also, what you should never say is

"Zapravo, ja ne pijem", "Actually, I don't drink,"

ali držite čašu u ruci. but keep the glass in your hand.

"Zapravo sam ja jedna jako mirna osoba", "Actually, I'm a very calm person,"

ali samo što ste nekome udarili packu. but you just hit someone's butt.

"Zapravo sam ja ovo ili ono", "Actually I'm this or that,"

Nemojte govotiti "zapravo"! Jednostavno, Don't say "actually"! Simply,

budite svesni toga šta radite sada i be aware of what you are doing now and

i da ste to odlučili da uradite and that you decided to do it

a možda ste i pogrešili nešto, and maybe you did something wrong,

ali nema potrebe da govorite: "Zapravo sam ja sasvim drugačija". but there's no need to say, "Actually, I'm quite different."

"Ovo je samo izuzetak". "This is just an exception".

Zato što je vama mnogo korisnije da Because it is much more useful for you to

možda kažete: you might say:

"U situaciji toj i toj..." "In such and such a situation..."

"meni se desi da odlučim da uradim tako i tako" "I happen to decide to do so and so"

"zbog toga i toga" "because of this and that"

"a ima i situacija u kojima uradim nešto drugačije" "and there are also situations in which I do something different"

Znači, pustite to "zapravo", So let it go "actually",

zato što to nekako ostavlja utisak da because it somehow gives the impression that

zato što ostavlja utisak da vi radite nešto čega se u stvari stidite because it gives the impression that you are doing something that you are actually ashamed of

što ne odgovara vama. which does not suit you.

Jedna jako glupa stvar je It's a very stupid thing

na primer, na sastanku, for example, in a meeting,

kada podigne neko ruku i kaže: when someone raises his hand and says:

"Možda će biti glupo ovo što ću da kažem" "Maybe what I'm about to say will be stupid"

"Ali...", i onda počne da priča nešto o svom mišljenju. "But...", and then he starts talking about his opinion.

Nemojte počinjati svoje rečenice sa Do not start your sentences with

"Možda je ovo glupo što ću da kažem". "Maybe this is a stupid thing to say".

Niti nemojte da započinjete da prezentujete nešto sa Don't even start presenting something with

"Jao, ja se nisam spremila, pa je ovo možda bezveze". "Oh, I didn't get ready, so maybe this is pointless".

Ja razumem. To je takozvano: "Fishing for Compliments" I understand. It's called: "Fishing for Compliments"

Da bi onda ljudi rekli: "Jao, ma ne, nije ti glupo". So that people would say: "Oh, no, you're not stupid".

"Ne, super ti je to što si rekla". "No, it's great that you said that."

Ali, suštinski je jako glupo, zato što But, fundamentally, it is very stupid, because

u momentu kada izgovorite: "Možda će ovo biti glupo..." the moment you say, "Maybe this is going to be stupid..."

drugi ljudi koji sede tu other people sitting there

šta će oni da pomisle? what will they think?

Odmah im se mozak isključi. Kao: "Ok, ako je glupo, što bih ja ovo slušao?" Immediately their brains shut down. Like, "Okay, if it's stupid, why would I listen to this?"

Umesto toga kažite: Instead say:

"Imam jednu ideju" "I have an idea"

"i volela bih vaše mišljenje za to" "and I'd like your opinion on that"

Znači, kad podignete ruku, kažite: "Ja imam ideju" So when you raise your hand, say, "I have an idea."

"I volela bih da čujem vaše mišljenje o tome". "And I'd like to hear your thoughts on that."

Onda ćete privući pažnju Then you will attract attention

i ljudi će saslušati šta imate da kažete and people will listen to what you have to say

a kad već sami kažete da je glupo and when you yourself say it's stupid

zašto bi vas neko slušao? why should anyone listen to you?

Ili, na primer, da se niste pripremili... Or, for example, that you didn't prepare...

Zašto bi vas neko slušao, ako se niste pripremili? Why should anyone listen to you if you haven't prepared?

Samo zato što se vi nadate da će početi Just because you hope it will start

"Jao, pa super si ti! A nisi se pripremila?" "Oh, you're great! And you didn't prepare?"

Ne, nemojte! To je jako glupo! No, don't! That is very stupid!

Ponižavate sebe i ponižavate sve one koji treba da saslušaju vaše mišljenje. You are humiliating yourself and humiliating all those who need to listen to your opinion.

Znači, ne, to nemojte da radite! So, no, don't do that!

Nipošto nemojte da radite. Do not work at all.

Na primer, kada neko dođe i pita vas: For example, when someone comes and asks you:

Za nešto da mu objasnite, da To explain something to him, yes

treba mu još informacija nešto, he needs more information something,

Nešto ga interesuje ili nešto se desilo pa He is interested in something or something has happened

pa nije baš jasno toj osobi so it's not really clear to that person

šta se u stvari desilo, možda na poslu what actually happened, maybe at work

možda vaš partner kod kuće ili možda neko od rodbine, maybe your partner at home or maybe a relative,

I vi kažete: "Ma znaš ti dobro!" And you say: "You know very well!"

Nemojte mu govotiti: "Znaš ti dobro!" Da zna, ne bi pitao! Don't tell him: "You know very well!" If he knew, he wouldn't ask!

Sa malo strpljenja, poštovanja i uvažavanja, With a little patience, respect and appreciation,

dajte mu potrebne informacije, give him the information he needs,

kad već pita, to je divno when he asks, that's wonderful

nemojte reći: "Znaš ti dobro šta ja mislim", don't say, "You know what I mean,"

"Znaš ti dobro kako se ja osećam", "You know very well how I feel,"

to je totalno glupo! that's totally stupid!

Stvarno je glupo. To su glupe rečenice. It's really stupid. Those are stupid sentences.

Kažite lepo: Say it nicely:

ono što vas pita, dajte najbolji odgovor što možete, what it asks you, give the best answer you can,

sa puno strpljenja with a lot of patience

i na taj način ćete ispoštovati i sebe i osobu koja je sa vama. and in this way you will respect both yourself and the person who is with you.

Kada se nekada sa nekim sporečkate oko nečega When you sometimes argue with someone about something

i možda se ne slažete oko nečega, and you may disagree about something,

ne treba da mu kažete: you don't need to tell him:

"Za razliku od tebe, JA", "Unlike you, ME",

i onda da istaknete sebe, and then to highlight yourself,

jer je to isto glupo. because that's just as stupid.

Na taj način vi, u stvari, želite da ponizite nekoga In this way, you actually want to humiliate someone

a sebe da stavite iznad. and put yourself above.

i to neće dobro da se završi. and it won't end well.

Najbolje što možete u takvim situacijama da kažete The best you can say in such situations

"Pa razumem da ti imaš mišljenje to i to" "Well, I understand that you have an opinion so and so"

Što bi podrazumevalo da ste ga saslušali Which would mean you listened to him

da mu date osećaj da ste ga razumeli, to give him the feeling that you understand him,

iako se možda ne slažete. although you may not agree.

I možete da kažete: And you can say:

"Razumem te, znam zašto ti tako misliš" "I understand you, I know why you think that"

"Ja imam drugačije mišljenje o tome i želim da ti kažem šta ja o tome mislim". "I have a different opinion about it and I want to tell you what I think about it".

Znači, ne: "Za razliku od tebe, JA..." So, not: "Unlike you, I..."

i onda se čudite što se posvađate s nekim. and then you are surprised that you have an argument with someone.

Ne, to su glupe stvari! Ni na poslu, No, those are stupid things! Not even at work

ni kolegama, nor to colleagues,

ni klijentima, neither clients,

ni partneru, nor to a partner,

ni sestri ni bratu, NIKOM ne govorite: "Za razliku od tebe..." neither sister nor brother, do not say to ANYONE: "Unlike you..."

"Ja sam bolja od tebe. Ja znam bolje od tebe." "I'm better than you. I know better than you."

"Ja sam više od tebe..." NE! "I am more than you..." NO!

To su reči koje ne treba da koristite. These are words you should not use.

Ono što, na primer, mogu da predložim da više koristite What, for example, I can suggest you use more

je da kažete: "Hvala!" is to say: "Thank you!"

Mi jako često podrazumevamo We very often take for granted

da ljudi razumeju da smo im zahvalni, da ih poštujemo i da ih cenimo. that people understand that we are grateful to them, that we respect and value them.

Ali vrlo često to nije slučaj But very often this is not the case

a s druge strane, lepo je to čuti. on the other hand, it's nice to hear that.

Zašto ne biste svom partneru Why not to your partner

ponekad rekli na čemu ste mu zahvalni sometimes say what you are grateful for

šta je ono što volite i cenite kod njega what is it that you love and appreciate about him

ali nemojte da kažete, samo onako: "Hvala", paušalno but don't say, just like that: "Thank you", flat out

nego kažite: rather say:

"Hvala ti zbog toga i toga". "Thank you for this and that".

Navedite šta tačno. Specify what exactly.

"Hvala ti zbog onoga juče" ili "Hvala ti zbog ovoga što si sad uradio". "Thank you for what you did yesterday" or "Thank you for what you did now".

"Hvala ti što često uradiš to i to". "Thank you for often doing this and that".

Zato mi i naginjemo da kažemo često: That's why we tend to say often:

"Ti mene uvek kritikuješ!" "You always criticize me!"

"Ti uvek ostaviš čarape ovde!" "You always leave your socks here!"

"Ti uvek ovo, ti uvek ono..." "You always this, you always that..."

i to jako loše utiče na naš odnos, jer and it has a very bad effect on our relationship, because

to najverovatnije nije tačno. that is most likely not true.

Možda se nešto dešava često, ali ne uvek. Maybe something happens often, but not always.

Ali, zbog toga je dobro But that's why it's good

da napravimo drugu naviku to make another habit

da ne koristimo to: "Ti uvek", nego da let's not use that: "You always", but yes

nego da često koristimo: "Hvala ti!" but to often use: "Thank you!"

Čak i kad često nešto radi, ali jednom ne uradi, Even when he often does something, but once he doesn't,

Kažite: "Jao, hvala ti što si me sad zaista pohvalio" Say, "Wow, thank you for really complimenting me now."

"Znači mi tvoje mišljenje, divno je što me hvališ". "Your opinion means a lot to me, it's wonderful that you praise me".

Ako vas neko često kritikuje, If someone often criticizes you,

sačekajte da vas jednom nešto pohvali, wait for someone to praise you once,

i primetite to i kažite da ste primetili. and notice it and say you noticed.

Ako je jednom sklonio papuče, kažite mu: If he once removed his slippers, tell him:

"Hvala ti dušo! Znaš koliko mi znači što ti skloniš papuče". "Thank you honey! You know how much it means to me that you take off your slippers".

Nemojte mu reći: "Ti nikad ne sklanjaš papuče". Don't tell him: "You never put away your slippers".

"Ti uvek..." "You always..."

Nego kažite: "Hvala" za ono što uradi, primetite to. But say: "Thank you" for what he does, notice it.

i onda ćete primetiti da će početi češće i radije da radi to. and then you will notice that he will start doing it more often and prefer to do it.

Takođe, šta je lepo da koristite kao reč je: "Rado!" Also, what's nice to use as a word is: "Glad!"

Kad vam neko kaže, na primer, da uradite nešto za njega, When someone tells you, for example, to do something for them,

ne morate da kažete: "Uradiću to", you don't have to say, "I'll do it,"

nego: "Važi, uradiću to RADO za tebe!" rather, "It's okay, I'll gladly do it for you!"

To zvuči još lepše, znate That sounds even nicer, you know

ili ako kažete nekom da nešto uradi, možete da kažete: or if you are telling someone to do something, you can say:

"Da li bi ti rado za mene uradio to i to?" "Would you like to do this and that for me?"

Znači, ne kažete: "Da li bi ti uradio to i to" So you don't say, "Would you do such and such"

ili: "Uradi, molim te, to i to",

nego mužu ili partneru kažete: rather you say to your husband or partner:

"Da li bi ti, ljubavi, rado za mene uradio to i to?" "Would you love to do this and that for me?"

Videćete sa koliko više radosti You will see with how much more joy

će uraditi nešto. will do something.

Budite pametne, Be smart,

koristite svoje reči use your own words

pametno, znači, ono što je glupo nemojte da izgovarate, smart, that is, don't say what's stupid,

ali zato izgovarajte one reči koje but therefore say those words which

koje čine da se vi osećate bolje that make you feel better

da sebe više poštujete to respect yourself more

i da ljudi oko vas osećaju da i njih poštujete. and that the people around you feel that you also respect them.

i oni će i vas zauzvrat više da poštuju, and they will respect you more in return,

kada shvate da vi sami sebe više poštujete. when they realize that you respect yourself more.

Eto, nadam se da će vam ovo biti korisno i ako vam je korisno There you go, I hope you find this useful and if you find it useful

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sve vas pozdravljam i vidimo se sledećeg četvrtka. I greet you all and see you next Thursday.