3 laka načina da ulepšate sebi život 3 einfache Möglichkeiten, Ihr Leben besser zu machen 3 easy ways to make your life better 3 простых способа сделать свою жизнь лучше

Dragi moji, My dear,

dobro mi došli! Ja sam Slavica Welcome! I am Slavica

ovo je moj YouTube kanal this is my youtube channel

i ovde svakog četvrtka možete da dobijete korisne savete and here every Thursday you can get useful tips

kako da kreirate život i posao koje ćete da obožavate. how to create a life and business you'll love.

U današnjem videu In today's video

sam pripremila nešto I prepared something

što može da vas učini srećnijim which can make you happier

može vaš život da učini onako iznutra can make your life so from within

ispunjenijim, a vas zadovoljnijim more fulfilled, and you more satisfied

i nije potreban nikakav novac za to and no money is needed for it

potrebno je da odvojite možda malo vremena you need to take maybe some time

da se drugačije restrukturirate to restructure differently

u toku dana, šta radite i kako radite during the day, what you do and how you do it

ili u toku nedelje ili u toku meseca, or during the week or during the month,

i da učinite nešto jako dobro za sebe and to do something very good for yourself

što može da ima super efekte which can have super effects

i na vaš život and on your life

na različite aspekte vašeg života. to different aspects of your life.

Pogledajte video do kraja obavezno Be sure to watch the video to the end

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novi video sa korisnim savetima. new video with useful tips.

Danas, o čemu se radi u stvari, Today, what is it really about,

želim da vam pričam o tome I want to tell you about it

kako, u stvari, da u svoj kalendar how, in fact, to your calendar

ubacite date night. insert date night.

Date night i to sa tri različite kategorije. Date night with three different categories.

Prva kategorija i najvažnija kategorija The first category and the most important category

a kategorija koja prva zaista ispadne iz kalendara and the category that really drops out of the calendar first

i za koju, obično, naročito mi žene, and for which, usually, especially women,

nikad nemamo vremena we never have time

je date sa samom sobom. is given with itself.

Uzmete, na primer, Take, for example,

subota popodne ili Saturday afternoon or

ne znam, nedelja pre podne, kad god I don't know, Sunday before noon, whenever

možda to može da bude ujutru kad svi spavaju, maybe it can be in the morning when everyone is sleeping,

ne mora da bude "night", ali ja kažem kao "date night" it doesn't have to be "night" but i say like "date night"

Ne mora biti noću. Može biti kad god hoćete. It doesn't have to be at night. It can be whenever you want.

Sa sobom možete da se dogovorite kad god hoćete. You can make an appointment with yourself whenever you want.

Samo je važno da u kalendaru It is only important that in the calendar

imate upisano you have entered

kao i sve ostale termine kojih morate da se držite as well as all the other deadlines you have to stick to

termin sa samom sobom. an appointment with yourself.

To je toliko korisno It is so useful

nemam reči da vam kažem. I have no words to tell you.

I vi možete taj date da organizujete kako god hoćete. And you can organize that date however you want.

Jer naravno, u turbulenciji svakodnevice Because of course, in the turbulence of everyday life

kada krenu: deca, posao... when they start: children, work...

kuća... toliko smo onda umorne, da za sebe house... we are so tired then, yes to ourselves

nemamo vremena i prvo ćemo da odbacimo ono što we don't have time and we will first discard what

je vezano za nas same is related to ourselves

znači, neka nega nas samih ili neki odmor so, some care for ourselves or some rest

za nas, neka relaksacija, nešto što nama čini dobro, for us, some relaxation, something that makes us feel good,

a u stvari je to velika šteta. and in fact it is a great pity.

Zato što mi sebe onda Because we ourselves then

ne obnavljamo, sebi ne pridajemo we don't renew, we don't give it to ourselves

važnost, sebe ne cenimo importance, we do not value ourselves

ne negujemo i onda smo nervozne we don't nurture and then we are nervous

i onda smo i drugima onako and then we are the same to others

naročito onima koje najviše volimo, nekako especially the ones we love the most, somehow

možda i neprijatne ponekad, zato što smo preopterećene. maybe even unpleasant sometimes, because we are overloaded.

Zato mi moramo prvo da se pobrinemo za sebe. That's why we have to take care of ourselves first.

Ali to ne znači da mi sad samo uživamo But that doesn't mean we're just enjoying ourselves now

ništa ne radimo... ne. Nego to znači we don't do anything... no. That's what it means

da štrpnemo negde malo vremena let's spend some time somewhere

nekih dvadeset minuta možda ili some twenty minutes maybe or

pola sata ili... zavisi koliko imate obaveza, half an hour or... depends on how much you have to do,

ali stavimo u kalendar i kažemo: but let's put it in the calendar and say:

"Subota popodne, deca idu kod bake" ili "Saturday afternoon, the kids go to grandma's" or

"muž neka ih čuva" "let the husband take care of them"

"ja hoću da imam to za sebe". "I want to have it for myself".

"Date sa samom sobom". "Date with yourself".

I onda, koliko ste uspeli da dobijete vremena, And then, as much time as you managed to get,

ili koliko uspete da to napravite, or as much as you manage to make it,

odredite šta ćete raditi. determine what you will do.

I na tom date-u sa samom sobom And on that date with myself

vi možete da, na primer, you can, for example,

pustite kadu punu vode run the bathtub full of water

da stavite neku dobru masku to put on a good mask

skuvate neki ukusan lep čaj you brew some delicious nice tea

onako da sebi udesite da lepo izgleda, so that you make yourself look beautiful,

da lepo miriše i da imate divan osećaj, to smell nice and feel great,

i da se jednostavno opustite. and to simply relax.

Retko žene imaju vremena za to. Women rarely have time for that.

Ja znam. I muškarci isto. I know. Men too.

Ali, ako planirate, But if you plan,

češće će da bude. Ako ne planirate, it will be more often. If you don't plan,

verovatno će biti kao i do sad, it will probably be the same as before,

skoro nikad. almost never.

Meni žene često kažu: "Jao, imam kadu kod kuće" Women often say to me, "Oh, I have a bathtub at home."

"ali nikad je ne koristim". "but I never use it".

Eto prilike da svoj date provedete Here's an opportunity to spend your day

u kadi. Znači, imate svoj date in bathtub. So you have your date

i provedete ga tako u kadi. and you spend it like that in the bath.

Druga ideja za date je da možda odete Another idea for dates is to maybe leave

u prirodu. Jer jako je važno da redovno budete u prirodi. in nature. Because it is very important to be in nature regularly.

I da kažete: "Ok, ja jednom nedeljno imam date" And to say: "Okay, I have dates once a week"

"sama sa sobom. Ove nedelje ću" "by myself. This week I will"

"da budem u kadi, sledeće nedelje hoću" "to be in the bath, next week I will"

"da budem u prirodi". "to be in nature".

Nije važno. Samo je važno da budete sami Does not matter. It's just important to be yourself

sa sobom. Malo da budete same. With myself. Be alone for a while.

Da vam se malo If you feel like it

duša očisti da malo neće niko ništa od vas, purify your soul so that no one will want anything from you,

da ste jednostavno dvadesetak minuta that you are simply twenty minutes away

pola sata, sat, koliko možete half an hour, an hour, as much as you can

onako, same sebi na usluzi as it is, at their own service

na raspolaganju i da možete da učinite nešto za samu sebe. available and that you can do something for yourself.

Na primer, možete da prošetate parkom For example, you can take a walk in the park

sedite na klupu, baš vas briga, ako nije hladno, sit on the bench, you don't care, if it's not cold,

možete da ponesete neku knjigu, you can bring a book

da čitate, možete samo da posmatrate tako ptice... to read, you can only observe such birds...

Stavite telefon u džep i isključite ga. Put the phone in your pocket and turn it off.

Nemojte da dozvolite da kada imate date sami sa sobom Don't let when you have dates with you

da vam neko smeta. NE! that someone bothers you. NOT!

Znači, stavite telefon u tašnu, isključite ga, So put your phone in your bag, turn it off,

i kažete: Sada sam dvadeset minuta u ovom parku and you say: I've been in this park for twenty minutes now

posmatram drveće, posmatram ptice, I watch the trees, I watch the birds,

šetam ovde, I'm walking here

sednem gde ja hoću, I sit where I want

uživam, tako sam sama sa sobom... I'm enjoying it, I'm so alone...

I videćete kako vam super dolaze ideje, And you will see how great ideas come to you,

Ja na primer, koristim moje kučiće, pa prošetam s njima, For example, I use my dogs, so I walk them,

i volim da budem sama and i like to be alone

pustim ih malo kad imam prostora u parku, I let them out a little when I have space in the park,

onda oni trčkaju, ja tako gledam u njih, then they run, i look at them like that,

i tako sam malo sama sa sobom... Za njih sam tu, ali and so I'm a little alone with myself... I'm here for them, but

jednostavno sam sama sa sobom. I volim tako da imam te kratke... I'm just alone with myself. And I love having those short...

Ja ne volim da budem sama u principu I don't like to be alone in principle

ja jako volim ljude i jako volim I love people very much and I love very much

svog Milana i volim svoje prijatelje i svoje saradnike, my Milan and I love my friends and my colleagues,

i volim da provodim vreme sa svima njima, and I love spending time with all of them,

ali tih dvadesetak minuta mi nekako očiste dušu. but those twenty minutes somehow cleanse my soul.

Malo budem sama sa sobom I'll be alone for a bit

i priuštim nešto sebi i onda mi padnu and I treat myself to something and then they fall on me

i uvek mi tad padnu najbolje ideje na pamet, and that's when the best ideas always come to my mind,

nećete verovati. Kao da mi se nekako pročisti kanal you won't believe it. It's like my channel is somehow cleared

do ideja. Baš kad sam sama. to ideas. Just when I'm alone.

Probajte, možda vam to bude korisno. Try it, you might find it useful.

I osmislite jednostavno svoj način And simply design your own way

kako vi želite da provedete date sami sa sobom how you want to spend your days with yourself

ja sam vam samo dala ove dve ideje I just gave you these two ideas

možete odmah da odbacite i smislite neku treću, nije važno, you can immediately reject it and come up with a third one, it doesn't matter,

vaš život je vaša stvar your life is your business

vaš date sa samim sobom, vaša stvar. your date with yourself, your thing.

I drugi date koji bih stvarno od srca preporučila da And other dates that I would really recommend from the bottom of my heart

obavezno imate u svom kalendaru you must have in your calendar

da stoji je date sa svojim partnerom. to stand is given with your partner.

Toliko brakova propada da je to So many marriages fail because of that

stvarno je tužno. Zato što ljudi više i ne pričaju, it's really sad. Because people don't even talk anymore,

niti jedni s drugima provode vreme, nor do they spend time with each other,

niti više znaju šta partner razmišlja, šta ga boli, they no longer know what their partner is thinking, what hurts him,

šta ga muči... Nema se više vremena, what's bothering him... There's no more time,

samo se funkcioniše, samo je neka zajednica it just works, it's just a community

funkcionisanja. Gde će deca, šta ćemo s decom, functioning. Where will the children go, what will we do with the children,

ko vozi, ko dovozi, ko razvozi... who drives, who delivers, who delivers...

ko radi ovo, ko donosi ovo, ko ide u nabavku... who does this, who brings this, who goes to purchase...

Znači, više se uopšte ljudi ne zbližavaju... So, people don't get close at all anymore...

I onda polako vremenom And then slowly over time

počne da bledi to zajedništvo that togetherness begins to fade

bude kao neka interesna zajednica be like some community of interest

koja funkcioniše ili ne funkcioniše više. which works or no longer works.

Zato je moj predlog drage dame: budite pametne. So my suggestion, dear ladies: be smart.

Napravite date sa svojim mužem. Make dates with your husband.

Ja, na primer, sa mojim Milanom redovno imam dates.

Verovatno sam i pričala u nekom videu, I probably talked in some video,

ali ovde želim još jednom da vas podsetim but here I want to remind you once again

znači redovno. Mi se dogovorimo means regularly. We make an agreement

mi imamo date. Ja sam to u početku inicirala, a kasnije we have dates I initially initiated it, and later

se Milanu dopalo, pa i on kaže: Milan liked it, so he also says:

"Hej ljubavi, ja hoću da te izvedem na ručak" "Hey love, I want to take you out to lunch"

"tu i tu. Kad možemo? Kad imaš vremena?" "here and there. When can we? When do you have time?"

I ja kažem: "Mogu tad i tad" i stavim u kalendar tako da And I say: "I can then and then" and put it in the calendar so that

je to blokirano, ne može ni it's blocked, it can't even

niko od mojih saradnika nešto sad tu da ubaci. none of my associates can add anything here now.

Ne, to je naš ručak, to je naše vreme. No, it's our lunch, it's our time.

I ranije smo iz Beograda stalno dolazili We used to come from Belgrade all the time

na primer, u Novi Sad for example, in Novi Sad

na Tvrđavu, na primer, volimo da on the Fortress, for example, we like to

imamo kasni ručak ili večeru na tvrđavi. To nam je neki date. we have a late lunch or dinner at the fort. That's what you gave us.

Ili smo dolazili na piknik i tako Or we came for a picnic and so on

negde gde nam je lepo, gde mi volimo, somewhere where we feel good, where we love,

sad živimo u Novom Sadu, pa nam je još lakše i još bolje, now we live in Novi Sad, so it's even easier and better for us,

ali vama predlažem da vi but to you I suggest that you

odete možda sa svojim suprugom u maybe you go with your husband to

omiljeni restoran. Ostavite decu negde. favorite restaurant. Leave the kids somewhere.

Neće ništa strašno da se desi ako Nothing terrible will happen if

deca budu negde children be somewhere

sat vremena ili sat i po. an hour or an hour and a half.

Vi budete sami sa svojim partnerom. You will be alone with your partner.

Deca cvetaju Children are blooming

kada ljubav roditelja cveta. when parents' love blooms.

Pobrinite se da ljubav cveta, tako što ćete Make sure love blooms by doing it

imati date sa svojim suprugom. have dates with your spouse.

Napravite možda neki lep

večernji event ili možete kod kuće, znate, evening event or you can at home, you know,

kažete: ovo je naš date. Deca nisu kod kuće, you say: this is our date. The children are not at home.

uzmete možda neku lepu flašu vina, maybe grab a nice bottle of wine,

ako imate ili neki divan čaj mirisni, if you have or some wonderful fragrant tea,

napravite neku lepu večeru, make a nice dinner,

ali samo za vas dvoje, da budete sami. but just for the two of you, to be alone.

Isključite televizor, isključite telefone, Turn off the TV, turn off the phones,

sve... Samo vas dvoje. everything... Just the two of you.

Kao nekad. I uživajte u razgovoru As once. And enjoy the conversation

pokrenite razgovor. Pročitajte start a conversation. Read

evo tu ću vam staviti link za moj blog here I will give you a link to my blog

da je razgovor melem za ljubav that conversation is a balm for love

i onda postupite po tome. and then act on it.

Možda vam to da par dobrih ideja. Maybe that will give you some good ideas.

I treći date koji predlažem da And the third date I suggest

vi sebi ulepšate život i da you make your life better and yes

se jednostavno osećate živo i you simply feel alive and

prisutno i možda srećnije, present and perhaps happier,

je da napravite date sa prijateljima koji su is to make dates with friends who are

pozitivni, koji vas vole, koji vas podržavaju, positive, loving, supportive,

i koji vam žele uspeh i napredak. and who wish you success and progress.

Zato što vrlo često čujem od žena da se Because I often hear from women that

druže sa nekim ženama koje su negativne hang out with some women who are negative

kukaju... Zašto se družite s njima? whining... Why do you hang out with them?

Ali dobro, ako su nekako tu, pa ne možete da ih izbegnete... But well, if they're somehow there, then you can't avoid them...

Ali svako ima nekoga ko je But everyone has someone who is

pozitivan, ko vam želi dobro, positive, who wishes you well,

ko vam želi napredak, a dešava se da se s takvim ljudima who wishes you progress, and it happens to be with such people

retko viđamo. I zato, we rarely see. And that's why,

predlažem da razmislite: napravite spisak I suggest you think: make a list

divnih ljudi koji vas okružuju koji vas vole, wonderful people surrounding you who love you,

koji vam žele dobro ili koji who wish you well or who

vas jednostavno inspirišu na neki način, they just inspire you in some way,

našli bi se s vama na neki date, na kafu, na nešto, we would meet with you on a date, for coffee, for something,

i uzmite svoj kalendar i pozovite ih. and get your calendar and call them.

I kažite: "Hej, kad imaš vremena da popijemo kafu?" And say, "Hey, when do you have time to have coffee?"

"Hajde da zakažemo, baš bih volela da se vidimo". "Let's make an appointment, I would really like to see you".

I onda se družite s ljudima koji vam čine dobro. And then hang out with people who do you good.

Koji vas inspirišu, koji vas motivišu, koji vas pokreću... Who inspire you, who motivate you, who move you...

S namerom to radite. Nemojte da prepuštate slučaju. You are doing it on purpose. Don't leave it to chance.

Zato što to onda može mesecima Because then it can take months

da se ne desi, nego da se okružujete stalno not to happen, but to surround yourself constantly

ljudima koji uopšte nisu inspirativni,

naprotiv, koji vas vuku na dole. on the contrary, which drag you down.

Zato sebi obezbedite date sa So provide yourself with dates

divnim ljudima i budite pametni da to radite wonderful people and be smart to do it

zaista ciljano, planirano i stavite u kalendar. really targeted, planned and put on the calendar.

I verujem da će onako malo po malo And I believe that it will, little by little

na primer, vi to možete raditi jednom u dve nedelje, for example, you can do it once every two weeks,

ili jednom mesečno, nema veze. or once a month, it doesn't matter.

I sve ove dates možete da rasporedite koliko možete, And you can spread out all these dates as much as you can,

ali uradite ciljano, znači, nemojte but do it purposefully, so don't

se odricati druženja sa divnim ljudima give up company with wonderful people

odricati se druženja, vremena sa svojim give up socializing, time with your own

partnerom ili se odricati partner or renounce

druženja sami sa sobom. socializing with yourself.

Jer ipak, zauvek ćete ostati sami sa sobom Because after all, you will remain with yourself forever

i divno je da imate malo vremena za sebe. and it's great to have some time to yourself.

A obično sebe stavimo na poslednje mesto. And we usually put ourselves last.

Zato vas pozivam da eksperimentišete That's why I invite you to experiment

da probate koliko možete. to try as much as you can.

Nemojte mi reći: "Jao, ja ne mogu, ja nemam vremena". Don't tell me: "Oh, I can't, I don't have time".

Možete se organizovati! You can get organized!

Ne daj Bože, da se desi nešto, God forbid something happens

vi biste odmah sve ostavili i otišli. you would immediately leave everything and go.

Ostavite isto tako sve i uradite Just leave everything and do

nešto dobro za sebe. something good for yourself.

Naravno, ne mislim sad da ostavite decu na ulici, nego Of course, I don't mean to leave the children on the street, but

da razmislite gde možete da ih ostavite to think about where you can leave them

i da date sebi dvadesetak minuta and give yourself twenty minutes

pola sata nedeljno half an hour a week

vašoj vezi da date to your relationship to give

pola sata - sat half an hour - an hour

ne znam, koliko možete nedeljno, I don't know how much you can do per week

i dobrim, prijatnim, podržavajućim ljudima u vašem životu and to the good, pleasant, supportive people in your life

da napravite prostor za to. to make room for it.

I nakon mesec dana, kad uradite And after a month, when you do

nešto od ovoga, slobodno mi pišite. Baš me zanima any of these, feel free to write to me. I'm really interested

da li vam je bilo prijatno, koliko vam je to značilo whether it was pleasant for you, how much it meant to you

kako se to na vaš život odrazilo how it affected your life

to što ste odvojili that you separated

makar malo vremena za sebe, svog partnera, at least a little time for yourself, your partner,

i za divne ljude. and for wonderful people.

Ako vam se ovaj video dopao i ako vam je koristan, If you liked this video and found it useful,

ako vas je naveo na razmišljanje, pritisnite like if it made you think, hit like

a možete da se prijavite i u našu besplatnu Facebook grupu and you can also join our free Facebook group

gde imate puno fantastičnih predavanja where you have a lot of fantastic lectures

mojih i mojih kolega iz NLP Instituta mine and my colleagues from the NLP Institute

i Milana takođe, and Milan too,

i gde će ih biti svakog meseca još više. and where there will be even more of them every month.

Ovog meseca i dalje radimo na temi komunikacija i odnosi, This month we continue to work on the topic of communication and relationships,

sledećeg meseca je tema next month's topic

karijera, budite pametni, pridružite nam se. career, be smart, join us.

Grupa se zove na Facebook-u: "Jer nam se može", The group's name on Facebook is: "Because we can".

zato što vam se može, besplatno je, a možete predavanja da gledate because you can, it's free, and you can watch the lectures

kad god je vama zgodno, jako su korisna whenever it is convenient for you, they are very useful

jako su motivišuća, inspirišuća they are very motivating, inspiring

i verujem da će napraviti razliku u vašem životu. and I believe it will make a difference in your life.

Vidimo se tamo. See you there.

Sve vas ljubim! I love you all!