Zen Habits, Toss Your Expectations Into the Ocean

Toss Your Expectations Into the Ocean Wrzuć swoje oczekiwania do oceanu

‘Act without expectation. „Działaj bez oczekiwania.

'  ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta.

How much of your stress, frustration, disappointment, anger, irritation, pissed-offedness comes from one little thing?

Almost all of it comes from your expectations, and when things (inevitably) don’t turn out as we expect, from wishing things were different. Prawie wszystko to wynika z Twoich oczekiwań, a gdy sprawy (nieuchronnie) nie potoczą się tak, jak się spodziewamy, z pragnienia, by było inaczej.

We build these expectations in our heads of what other people should do, what our lives should be like, how other drivers should behave … and yet it’s all fantasy.

It’s not real.

And when reality doesn’t meet our fantasy, we wish the world were different. A kiedy rzeczywistość nie spełnia naszych fantazji, życzymy sobie, żeby świat był inny.

Here’s a simple solution:

Take your expectations, and throw them in the ocean.

Picture all the expectations you have for yourself, your life, your spouse, your kids, your coworkers, your job, the world. Wyobraź sobie wszystkie Twoje oczekiwania wobec siebie, swojego życia, współmałżonka, dzieci, współpracowników, pracy, świata.

Take them from inside you, and toss them in the ocean. A river or lake will also do. Rzeka lub jezioro też się przyda.

What happens to them?

They float. They’re carried around by waves. The current takes them out, and they drift away. Let them be washed away by the cleansing waters, and let them go.

Now live your life without them. Teraz żyj bez nich.

What’s a life without expectations like? Jak wygląda życie bez oczekiwań?

It means you accept reality as it is, and people as they are, without expectations, without trying to force people into the containers you have for them, seeing things as they are. It’s a life where you don’t need to be disappointed or frustrated or angry — or if you are, you accept it, and then let it go.

That’s not to say you never act — you can act in a way that’s in accordance with your values, and influence the world, but never have an expectation of how the world will react to your actions.

If you do something good, you won’t expect praise or appreciation.

Let those expectations of reward and praise float away with the waves. Niech te oczekiwania nagrody i pochwały odpłyną wraz z falami. Do good because you love doing good, and expect nothing beyond that.

Pay attention to your thoughts.

Don’t beat yourself up if you have expectations. Just see them. Po prostu je zobacz. Then toss them in the ocean.

Notice if you start to wish things weren’t the way they are. Zwróć uwagę, jeśli zaczniesz żałować, że rzeczy nie były takie, jakie są.

If you wish someone else didn’t do something, notice that. You have expectations, and you wish people or the world could have met them instead of doing what they actually did. Masz oczekiwania i żałujesz, że ludzie lub świat mogli je spełnić, zamiast robić to, co faktycznie zrobili. Toss those wishes in the ocean too. Now accept things, and move on.

Let the waters of the world cleanse us, and let us walk lightly in a world that is already wonderful without our fantasies.

‘I am open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder my path.

'  ~Dalai Lama ----

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