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Ted Talks, Uncommon Sense: Moving from a Problem-Focused to Solution-Focused Mindset | Mel Gill | TEDxVarna (2)

Uncommon Sense: Moving from a Problem-Focused to Solution-Focused Mindset | Mel Gill | TEDxVarna (2)

You see, if you want to have possibility thinking,

your EQ has got to be a little bit higher.

If you are a possibility thinker,

your sense of humor will automatically develop over a period of time.

Why? Because you see possibilities.

You see, the problem is school has damaged you.

You come to school, you come to university,

they make you all believe one thing, one way.

And yet the people who have given you new technologies,

the people who have given you new inventions

were never in school to do that.

You see, they developed that on their own

because they didn't know it was impossible.

They didn't know that something could not be done.

The person who was told so many times, "You cannot climb Mount Everest.

It's impossible to climb Mount Everest.

No one can breathe on Everest. No one can survive."

One man decided - he didn't go to school.

His name was Edmund Hillary.

He's from New Zealand where they don't go to school very much.

(Laughter)

I'm going to hear from my New Zealand friends for that.

They just learn how to raise sheep.

Oh, that's even worse.

(Laughter)

He decided to climb Everest and broke the mold.

And after that, in that same year,

eight more people started to climb Everest.

Now, a 164 bodies are on Everest,

and we cannot bring them down.

So, I don't know if he did a good thing or a bad thing.

But somewhere along the way,

someone has to show you that it's possible,

then you start to do it.

How about you be the one?

Someone told a fellow a long time ago,

"You cannot break the four-minute mile."

And yet, Roger Bannister decided to ignore everyone,

and he ran one mile in under four minutes.

After that, three more people broke the record -

because one man showed them that it was possible.

You see, I believe that you in Varna have a lot of creativity.

There's something in the energy of the place.

It's not about the economy. It's not about the buildings.

It's not about everything. It's about the people.

I love the energy of the people here

because the creative people are in this room.

Look at TEDx.

Whose idea was this here?

Everywhere else, people are hesitant to start this,

but one young man -

Boyan, where are you? -

decided that this was possible.

(Applause)

And so he sets the stage for other people to say,

"Yes, it's possible. I will start to organize my own stuff.

And soon, there'll be nobody coming for Boyan's talk."

(Laughter)

I'm just kidding. But you know what I mean.

The possibility that sets up inside of you

is the thing that says, "There will be nothing that stands in my way."

How do you develop that? Very simple.

You start to pay attention to where you are.

Where are you now?

And this, you can use for achieving any goals

and anything that you want, as well.

Is this my clock? Just out of curiosity.

Wow!

(Man in audience:) It's not a problem. It's a situation.

Okay. Great. Fantastic.

I just saw I have a little bit of time -

like somebody left me the last piece of pie here.

So, if you just take inventory of where you are right now,

understand where you are, what resources you have,

how much money you have, what education level you have,

what connections you have,

and then think about where it is you want to go.

What is it you want to be?

And don't think five years.

Think two years - just two years, something that's within vision.

And then notice what it will take for you

to get from here to there.

What is the path between here and there?

And if you don't know the path, find someone who has taken that path.

Find someone who has already done it.

And if you cannot meet them directly, find it out in books.

You've got the Internet.

You've got all of these resources.

And this is the step that no one takes -

the fourth step - and that is to take the first step.

No one takes action.

They think about it. They draw it up in plans.

It's a great plan. They put it out in their notebooks.

"It's a great plan. Look, I came up with this five years ago, dadadadada."

Someone told me three days ago,

"I really wanted to start TEDx in Varna about three years ago,

but (gasp), and somebody else did it."

How many times have you walked by and say, "Hey, I invented this several years ago.

I thought about it and now, somebody made it an invention."

How many people have had that thought?

One man walked into the offices of Facebook.

How many people are familiar with Facebook?

The largest mental hospital in the world.

(Laughter)

(Applause)

And the geniuses that came up with Facebook sat there

and said that if anybody writes any rubbish,

the only response you can give is "like."

So, when somebody responds to you, they like the nonsense that you post.

And so, all of a sudden,

all the mental hospitals in the world start to put all the stuff they've done:

take pictures of their food, take pictures of their dog,

take pictures of their dog eating their food - all of that.

Do you remember a time 15 years ago when you and I had cameras

and we took pictures of our food?

We went to the store, developed them, and then sent it by mail to our friends?

(Laughter)

No?

(Applause)

Possibility thinking means

never accepting failure as your final destination.

Failure is a means to success.

One young man walked into Facebook, asked for a job in 2006.

They turned him down.

They said, "Sorry, we don't have a place for you.

You're not qualified."

That man did not get depressed.

Maybe a couple of days,

he drank some Rakia with some Bulgarian friends.

But after that,

he decided to sit with a group of people and created an app.

And the app was to text people for free.

He thought it'll be wonderful.

Soon, he had a couple of million people.

Soon, he had several hundred million people,

and then Facebook made him an offer and said,

"I will buy your app from you, young man, for 16 billion dollars."

The man who did not get a job

did not become depressed and go into spirals.

He thought, "What can I do next? Here is an opportunity."

So, every time you meet with success,

it's because you are followed by a lot of failure.

And if you have not failed, you will not become successful.

Let me tell you,

I am one of the biggest failures in the world.

To experience massive success, you've got to have massive failure.

There's no ands, ifs, and buts.

You must try, and if you don't try, you will not get ahead.

Possibility thinking is refusing to accept limits.

Possibility thinking is recognizing

that you are fully capable of making any change you want in your life.

And people, I come here to give you one piece of good news.

And I'm a predictor of your future.

Would you like to know what your future is?

Again, that's a question. I'm sorry, I should have told you that.

You are all going to die.

(Laughter)

(Applause)

None of you are going to get out of this life alive.

You are going to die.

No matter how much you stretch it, you're going to die eventually.

So, before you die,

why don't you make it a spectacular life?

Why don't you do those things that other people are afraid of doing?

Why don't you try and try and try and never, ever stop?

I have a friend in south Arizona.

This man is an American Indian.

One more story and then I'll step down.

(Laughter)

This man is an American Indian.

He's the most successful rainmaker on the planet.

He has made rain come down by doing a rain dance.

(Mimics rainmaker chant)

(Laughter)

He does a rain dance.

And do you know why he's 100% successful?

That's a question.

(Laughter)

Because he keeps dancing until it rains.

(Laughter)

(Applause)

Thank you.


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You see, if you want to have possibility thinking, A lehetőségekben történő gondolkozás

your EQ has got to be a little bit higher. tu EQ tiene que ser un poco más alto. kicsit magasabb érzelmi intelligenciát, EQ-t követel.

If you are a possibility thinker, Ha lehetőségekben gondolkozunk,

your sense of humor will automatically develop over a period of time. tu sentido del humor se desarrollará automáticamente con el paso del tiempo. akkor idővel a humorunk is automatikusan fejlődik.

Why? Because you see possibilities. Miért? Mert lehetőségeket látunk.

You see, the problem is school has damaged you. Verás, el problema es que la escuela te ha perjudicado. Az a baj, hogy az iskola leépítő hatású.

You come to school, you come to university, Az iskola, az egyetem

they make you all believe one thing, one way. os hacen creer a todos una cosa, de una manera. egyengondolkozásra tanít.

And yet the people who have given you new technologies, Y sin embargo, las personas que les han dado las nuevas tecnologías, Az új technológiák,

the people who have given you new inventions az újítások azoktól származnak,

were never in school to do that. akik nem sokat jártak iskolába.

You see, they developed that on their own Egyedül fejlesztették ki,

because they didn't know it was impossible. mert nem tudták, hogy lehetetlen.

They didn't know that something could not be done. No sabían que no se podía hacer algo. Nem tudták, hogy nem lehet megcsinálni.

The person who was told so many times, "You cannot climb Mount Everest. Akinek sokszor ismételték: "Nem tudsz felmászni a Mount Everestre."

It's impossible to climb Mount Everest. "Lehetetlen felmászni a Mount Everestre."

No one can breathe on Everest. No one can survive." Nem lehet lélegezni az Everesten. Nem lehet túlélni.

One man decided - he didn't go to school. Valaki elhatározta, nem ment iskolába.

His name was Edmund Hillary. Neve Edmund Hillary.

He's from New Zealand where they don't go to school very much. Es de Nueva Zelanda, donde no van mucho a la escuela. Új-Zélandról származik, ahol nem sokat járnak iskolába.

(Laughter)

I'm going to hear from my New Zealand friends for that. Para eso voy a escuchar a mis amigos neozelandeses.

They just learn how to raise sheep. Sólo aprenden a criar ovejas. Épp a birkatenyésztést tanulják.

Oh, that's even worse. Eso es aún peor. Ez még rosszabb.

(Laughter)

He decided to climb Everest and broke the mold. Decidió escalar el Everest y rompió el molde. Eldöntötte, hogy megmássza az Everestet, és formabontó lesz.

And after that, in that same year, Még abban az évben,

eight more people started to climb Everest. nyolcan vágtak neki az Everestnek.

Now, a 164 bodies are on Everest, Már 164 holttest van az Everesten,

and we cannot bring them down. nem tudjuk lehozni őket.

So, I don't know if he did a good thing or a bad thing. Nem tudom eldönteni, hogy jó vagy rossz döntés volt.

But somewhere along the way, Az út során,

someone has to show you that it's possible, valaki meg kell mutassa a lehetőséget,

then you start to do it. és akkor belevágunk.

How about you be the one? ¿Qué tal si eres tú? Mi lenne, ha te lennél az a valaki?

Someone told a fellow a long time ago, Egyszer rég valaki azt mondta egy ifjúnak:

"You cannot break the four-minute mile." "No se puede romper la milla de cuatro minutos." "Nem tudsz egy mérföldet négy perc alatt lefutni."

And yet, Roger Bannister decided to ignore everyone, Roger Bannister eldöntötte, hogy nem hallgat senkire,

and he ran one mile in under four minutes. és kevesebb mint négy perc alatt lefutott egy mérföldet.

After that, three more people broke the record - Utána még hárman megdöntötték a rekordját,

because one man showed them that it was possible. mert valaki megmutatta, hogy lehetséges.

You see, I believe that you in Varna have a lot of creativity. Azt gondolom, hogy itt Várnában kreatívak élnek.

There's something in the energy of the place. A hely energetikájában van valami.

It's not about the economy. It's not about the buildings. Nem a gazdaság miatt, nem az épületek miatt.

It's not about everything. It's about the people. Semmi máson, csak az embereken múlik.

I love the energy of the people here Tetszik az itteniek energetikája,

because the creative people are in this room. mert kreatívak vannak a teremben.

Look at TEDx. Vegyük a TEDx-et.

Whose idea was this here? Kinek az ötlete volt ez itt?

Everywhere else, people are hesitant to start this, Máshol vonakodnak belekezdeni,

but one young man - de egy fiatalember –

Boyan, where are you? - Bojan, merre vagy? –,

decided that this was possible. eldöntötte, hogy ez megvalósítható.

(Applause)

And so he sets the stage for other people to say, Létrehozta a színpadot, hogy mások mondhassák:

"Yes, it's possible. I will start to organize my own stuff. "Megvalósítható. Én is megszervezem a magam csapatát.

And soon, there'll be nobody coming for Boyan's talk." Y pronto, no habrá nadie que venga a la charla de Boyan". Aztán senki nem megy többé Bojan előadására."

(Laughter) (Nevetés)

I'm just kidding. But you know what I mean. Csak viccelek, de értik, mit akarok mondani.

The possibility that sets up inside of you La posibilidad que se instala dentro de ti Felmerül bennünk, hogy megvalósítható:

is the thing that says, "There will be nothing that stands in my way." es lo que dice: "No habrá nada que se interponga en mi camino". "Semmi nem állhat az utamba" – mondjuk.

How do you develop that? Very simple. Hogy fejlődik ez ki bennünk? Egyszerűen.

You start to pay attention to where you are. Empiezas a prestar atención a dónde estás. Figyeljünk először a mostani helyzetünkre.

Where are you now? Hol tartunk most?

And this, you can use for achieving any goals Y esto, lo puedes utilizar para conseguir cualquier objetivo Ez bármilyen célt segít elérni,

and anything that you want, as well. bármit, amit szeretnénk.

Is this my clock? Just out of curiosity. ¿Es este mi reloj? Sólo por curiosidad. Ez nekem mutatja az időt? Csak érdekességképpen.

Wow! Nahát!

(Man in audience:) It's not a problem. It's a situation. (Nézőtérről): Nem probléma. Ez helyzet.

Okay. Great. Fantastic. Rendben. Nagyszerű. Fantasztikus.

I just saw I have a little bit of time - Acabo de ver que tengo un poco de tiempo - Látom, még van egy kis időm.

like somebody left me the last piece of pie here. como si alguien me hubiera dejado el último trozo de tarta aquí. Mintha valaki itt hagyta volna nekem az utolsó szelet sütit.

So, if you just take inventory of where you are right now, Készítsünk leltárt, hol tartunk most,

understand where you are, what resources you have, értsük meg, hol vagyunk, mik az eszközeink,

how much money you have, what education level you have, mennyi a pénzünk, milyen a végzettségünk,

what connections you have, milyen kapcsolataink vannak,

and then think about where it is you want to go. utána döntsük el, hova szeretnénk eljutni.

What is it you want to be? ¿Qué quieres ser? Mik szeretnénk lenni?

And don't think five years. Ne gondolkozzunk öt évben.

Think two years - just two years, something that's within vision. Gondolkozzunk két évre, csak kettőre, mert az átlátható.

And then notice what it will take for you Aztán vegyük számba, mire van szükségünk,

to get from here to there. hogy innen oda jussunk.

What is the path between here and there? Milyen út vezet innen oda?

And if you don't know the path, find someone who has taken that path. Ha nem tudjuk az utat, akkor keressünk valakit, aki megtette.

Find someone who has already done it. Találjunk valakit, akinek sikerült.

And if you cannot meet them directly, find it out in books. Y si no puede conocerlos directamente, infórmese en los libros. Ha nem találkozhatunk vele, akkor keressünk a könyvekben.

You've got the Internet. Van internetünk.

You've got all of these resources. Ezek a források mind rendelkezésünkre állnak.

And this is the step that no one takes - Y este es el paso que nadie da - Itt következik az a lépés, amit senki nem vállal,

the fourth step - and that is to take the first step. el cuarto paso: dar el primer paso. a negyedik lépés: tegyük meg az első lépést.

No one takes action. Senki nem cselekszik.

They think about it. They draw it up in plans. Csak gondolkozik róla.

It's a great plan. They put it out in their notebooks. Nagyszerű terv. Kiteszik a képernyőre.

"It's a great plan. Look, I came up with this five years ago, dadadadada." "Nagyszerű terv. Nézd, öt éve kitaláltam, blablabla."

Someone told me three days ago, Valaki azt mondta három napja:

"I really wanted to start TEDx in Varna about three years ago, "Tényleg, már három éve szerettem volna TEDx-et szervezni Várnában,

but (gasp), and somebody else did it." de (Szisszenés), valaki lekörözött."

How many times have you walked by and say, "Hey, I invented this several years ago. Hányszor haladunk el valami mellett: "Hé, ezt én is feltaláltam pár éve.

I thought about it and now, somebody made it an invention." Gondolkoztam rajta hébe-hóba. most valaki bejegyeztette újításként."

How many people have had that thought? Hányan jártak már így?

One man walked into the offices of Facebook. Valaki bement a Facebook-irodába.

How many people are familiar with Facebook? Hányan ismerik a Facebookot?

The largest mental hospital in the world. A legnagyobb elmegyógyintézet a világon.

(Laughter) (Nevetés) (Taps)

(Applause)

And the geniuses that came up with Facebook sat there A zsenik, akik kitalálták a Facebookot,

and said that if anybody writes any rubbish, azt mondták, hogy ha valaki bármi marhaságot ír,

the only response you can give is "like." akkor csak lájkolni kell.

So, when somebody responds to you, they like the nonsense that you post. Mikor valaki válaszol, akkor kedveli az értelmetlen kiírásunk.

And so, all of a sudden, Egyszeriben minden elmebeteg a világon

all the mental hospitals in the world start to put all the stuff they've done: elkezdte kiírogatni, mit csinált:

take pictures of their food, take pictures of their dog, képeket a kajáról, a kutyájáról,

take pictures of their dog eating their food - all of that. a kutyájáról, amint eszi a kajáját, és hasonlókat.

Do you remember a time 15 years ago when you and I had cameras Emlékeznek olyan időkre 15 éve, hogy fényképezőgépet vettünk,

and we took pictures of our food? és képeket készítettünk volna a kajánkról?

We went to the store, developed them, and then sent it by mail to our friends? Elmentünk az üzletbe, előhívattuk, majd postán elküldtük volna barátainknak?

(Laughter) (Nevetés)

No? Nem?

(Applause)

Possibility thinking means A lehetőségekben gondolkozás

never accepting failure as your final destination. nem fogadja el a sikertelen végkimenetelt.

Failure is a means to success. A bukás a siker eszköze.

One young man walked into Facebook, asked for a job in 2006. Egy ifjú bement a Facebookhoz, állást keresett 2006-ban.

They turned him down. Elutasították.

They said, "Sorry, we don't have a place for you. Azt mondták: "Sajnos, nem alkalmazhatjuk.

You're not qualified." Nincs végzettsége."

That man did not get depressed. Az ifjú nem lett depressziós.

Maybe a couple of days, Esetleg pár napig,

he drank some Rakia with some Bulgarian friends. megivott kevés rakiát pár bolgár barátjával.

But after that, Utána elhatározta,

he decided to sit with a group of people and created an app. hogy összeülnek páran, és alkottak egy alkalmazást.

And the app was to text people for free. Ingyenes alkalmazást üzenetküldésre.

He thought it'll be wonderful. Azt gondolta, hogy csodálatos lesz.

Soon, he had a couple of million people. Hamarosan pármillió ügyfele volt.

Soon, he had several hundred million people, Rövid időn belül több száz millió ügyfele volt,

and then Facebook made him an offer and said, a Facebook felhívta, és azt ajánlotta:

"I will buy your app from you, young man, for 16 billion dollars." "Fiatalember, megveszem az alkalmazását 16 milliárd dollárért."

The man who did not get a job Az elutasított fiatalember

did not become depressed and go into spirals. nem lett depressziós, nem került spirálba.

He thought, "What can I do next? Here is an opportunity." Elgondolkozott: "Mit tegyek ezután? Itt a lehetőség."

So, every time you meet with success, Minden sikerünkre úgy kerül sor,

it's because you are followed by a lot of failure. hogy átjutunk sok buktatón.

And if you have not failed, you will not become successful. Ha nem jutunk át sok buktatón, akkor nem lehetünk sikeresek.

Let me tell you, Elmesélem,

I am one of the biggest failures in the world. hogy az egyik legnagyobb lúzer vagyok a világon.

To experience massive success, you've got to have massive failure. Nagy sikert csak nagy bukással lehet elérni.

There's no ands, ifs, and buts. No hay peros que valgan. Semmi "és", "ha" vagy "de".

You must try, and if you don't try, you will not get ahead. Próbálkozni kell, ha nem tesszük, akkor nem fejlődünk.

Possibility thinking is refusing to accept limits. A lehetőségekben gondolkozás nem ismer korlátokat.

Possibility thinking is recognizing A lehetőségekben gondolkozás annak felismerése,

that you are fully capable of making any change you want in your life. hogy képesek vagyunk létrehozni bármit, amit szeretnénk az életünkben.

And people, I come here to give you one piece of good news. Azért jöttem, hogy közöljem a jó hírt.

And I'm a predictor of your future. Megjósolom a jövőnket.

Would you like to know what your future is? Szeretnék tudni a jövőjüket?

Again, that's a question. I'm sorry, I should have told you that. De nuevo, es una pregunta. Lo siento, debería habértelo dicho. Ez ismét kérdés. Bocs, szólnom kellett volna.

You are all going to die. Mindenki meghal.

(Laughter) (Nevetés) (Taps)

(Applause)

None of you are going to get out of this life alive. Senki nem kerül ki az életből élve.

You are going to die. Meg fognak halni.

No matter how much you stretch it, you're going to die eventually. Nem számít, meddig húzzák, végül is meghalnak.

So, before you die, Mielőtt megteszik,

why don't you make it a spectacular life? miért nem élnek káprázatos életet?

Why don't you do those things that other people are afraid of doing? Miért nem vállalkoznak olyasmire, amit más fél megtenni?

Why don't you try and try and try and never, ever stop? Miért nem próbálkoznak, próbálkoznak, és soha, de soha nem hagyják abba?

I have a friend in south Arizona. Dél-Arizónában van egy barátom.

This man is an American Indian. Ő amerikai indián.

One more story and then I'll step down. Csak még egy történet, utána lelépek.

(Laughter) (Nevetés)

This man is an American Indian. Ő amerikai indián.

He's the most successful rainmaker on the planet. Es el creador de lluvia más exitoso del planeta. A legsikeresebb esőember a világon.

He has made rain come down by doing a rain dance. Eső előidézésére rituális esőtáncot járt.

(Mimics rainmaker chant) (Esőidéző ének utánzása)

(Laughter) (Nevetés)

He does a rain dance. Esőtáncot jár.

And do you know why he's 100% successful? Honnan lehet tudni, hogy 100%-ig sikeres?

That's a question. Ez a kérdés.

(Laughter)

Because he keeps dancing until it rains. Porque sigue bailando hasta que llueve.

(Laughter)

(Applause)

Thank you. Köszönöm.