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Valuetainment, The Rise Of Weak Men (1)

The Rise Of Weak Men (1)

What is it to be a man's man today?

I mean, I grew up wanting to be a man's man.

That's what you wanted to be, but today it's toxic masculinity, right?

You're hearing it everywhere.

People are being canceled for being a man's man.

But the reality of it is, 1944, a man's man was storming the beaches of Normandy and they

knew most of them were going to lose their lives, but they're like, nope, I'm doing this

because this is what men are supposed to do.

Today, people are storming the beaches of their couch to play Call of Duty.

40, 50 years ago, without social media, we had to go learn how to pick up girls and flirt

and have lines and be rejected.

Today, you just got to swipe right.

Years ago, you had to learn how to hunt to get your food.

Today, you just call Uber Eats.

Lots changed.

Are men becoming pansies?

Are they becoming soft?

Are we becoming passive, like, oh my gosh, betas?

Is that what's happening?

I got a bunch of data I want to talk to you about that has to do with what we bench-pressed

30 years ago versus today, squat, our grip strength, a bunch of different things that

are influencing men to become softer.

And for some of you that are watching this that completely disagree with my message,

I would love to have you watch this message and post your commentary below at the end

of the video.

Stick around until the very end, I got a quiz for you to take to know exactly what you're

driven by, but it's important for us to look at some of the data to know if this is just

gibberish or how are men really viewed and what kind of a life men live today.

Before we get into it, I just want to give you some stats on is there any relevance in

men really struggling today?

Like, they can't find themselves.

Are they really becoming softer or not?

Scott Galloway wrote an article, the title was The Most Dangerous Person in the World

is a Young Man Who's Broke and Alone.

Let me read some of the statistics that he has in this article.

Men are more likely to use almost all types of illicit drugs at a higher rate than women,

thus, their higher prevalence of emergency room visits and inpatient substance abuse

treatment.

93% of prison inmates are male, as are 98% of all death row inmates.

Men are dramatically more likely to be homeless and for longer periods of time.

Men now account for 41% of college enrollments, down from 60% in 1970.

Men are twice as likely to overdose, three and a half times more likely to commit suicide,

and more than nine times more likely to be incarcerated.

A recent study revealed that nine out of ten mass violent attackers were male, and more

than two thirds of them were under the age of 35.

Once again, the most dangerous person in the world is a broke and alone young male.

Scott Galloway recommends three things.

Start making money.

We are living in a capitalist society.

Get super strong.

You want to be fit.

You want to lift heavy weights and run long distances in your mind and in the gym.

And last but not least, get out there.

Commit to meeting people.

And quite frankly, try having sex.

So interesting three points he makes, right?

Start making money today.

Get super strong.

And finally, get out there and commit to meeting people.

But are we not stronger today than we were before?

Let's take a look at some data to see if men are stronger today than maybe 20 or 30 years

ago.

There's three things I want to look at.

I want to look at our bench press to before, squat, as well as your grip strength.

They say your grip strength is a strong predicator of mortality in later life.

So are we stronger today or before?

Here's what the numbers tell us.

So they surveyed 1800 lifters, ages 20 to 39, to see what the average bench press was

30 years ago versus today.

And here's what they came up with.

What the average man could bench press 30 years ago versus today.

30 years ago was 240 pounds versus today, 187 pounds.

Squat was 277 versus today, 225.

So when you look at this data, how do you process it?

Grip strength, bench, squat, like, why are we looking at this data?

Maybe, just maybe, they're trying to get women to become stronger and men to become weaker.

Maybe.

Maybe I'm wrong.

I will tell you, at our vault conference we had with a couple thousand people there, business

owners, entrepreneurs, I challenged everybody to go do a certain questionnaire the first

night and the next day come and share their breakthrough with everybody.

While I'm going through everyone, a lady sitting right here, like seven rows right there, she

gets up and she says, Patrick, I have to tell you my breakthrough last night.

I said, what is it?

She said, for the last 20 years, all I've been trying to do is compete against men to

prove that I can make as much money as they make.

I'm strong.

I don't need them.

I'm independent.

I run a very successful salon.

I do very well for myself.

Everybody that works with me makes great money.

I'm very, very successful right now, to my friends, to my peers.

I said, okay, and where are you going with this?

What's wrong with that?

She said, the breakthrough I have yesterday is men are not the enemy.

I want a husband.

I want to get married.

I want to have a family.

How interesting is that, right?

The person she wanted to beat the entire time, now she wants to marry.

How many endless videos can we see with women in their 60s, who bought into the feminist

movement to make men and women equal, are sitting there saying, I regret making that

decision because I'm single, never been married, don't have any kids, and I'm alone.

And I wish I would have married men.

I wish I would have had kids because I wouldn't have been alone today.

Next point is a lack of male role models in a boy's life, or a man's life.

So if you look at some data here, in 2019, some 15 million children in the United States

were living with a single mother.

That's about five times more than those living with a single father.

As divorce rates rise, and family courts continue to favor mothers, the amount of boys living

without a dad will continue to grow.

So why is this so important?

There are certain things I can tell my boys, that my wife can't tell them.

Period.

I can go tell my boys, we're going outside and we're playing, they have to listen to

it.

I can go tell my boys, you have to read 20 pages a day.

They may tell mom, mom, I'm good, I don't need to read today, I don't need to do this,

I don't need to do that.

There's just certain things my dad could have told me that my mom couldn't tell me.

There's a very, very big value that men have in a boy's life.

But the more divorces we get, and the more fatherless homes that we have, men don't know

what it is to be a man's man.

As a matter of fact, let's look at a completely different angle.

Most kids who go to school, most teachers are women.

Most teachers are not men.

So I just recently had my kids watch Captain, the documentary about Derek Jeter, and there's

a scene in this documentary where Derek Jeter is drafted by the Yankees, his dream becomes

a reality, always wanted to be a shortstop for them because his dad was a shortstop.

He goes, but he's not doing well.

He's making errors, he's making mistakes, he's doing all this stuff, and he's having

anxiety attacks, he's depressed almost, and he makes a phone call to his house.

Mom's talking to Derek, and mom says, son, why don't you just come home?

The father says, when I heard my wife saying this to Jeter, he says, I told her, don't

tell him that.

He can't know that's an option.

So now, let's replay this.

Say the father's not in the picture.

Say the mom's able to convince Derek Jeter to come home because no mother wants to see

their son suffer.

And she's witnessing her son, Derek, suffer.

But the father says, that's what builds character.

Let him go through it.

If that doesn't happen, you don't have a 5-time World Series champion, a few hundred million

dollars, one of the greatest Yankees of all time, 3,400 hits.

If that simple call by the father wasn't made, you and I may not know who Derek Jeter is.

So what's the point here?

So maybe men today need stronger role models to challenge them and to show them, it is

okay to go through challenges.

It is okay to have to fight through.

This is a part of becoming a man's man, and it's natural.

Next point is the walking on eggshells society that we're living in today.

And what do I mean by walking on eggshells?

People are afraid of offending today, okay?

So when you're afraid of offending, you don't want to share your opinion.

And the way people learn who you really are is by sharing your opinion and feelings about

different issues.

Now, in our family, I talk about four things with my boys.

We lead, we respect, we improve, we love.

Respect.

Let's talk about that.

If you constantly spend your life disrespecting people, you're eventually going to be alone

and not successful in business, because it doesn't work out if you want to disrespect

everybody.

People are not going to stick around in a work environment if you're disrespecting them.

People are not going to be with you friendship-wise if you're constantly disrespecting them and

judging them.

And quite frankly, you're going to be by yourself.

Now, offending is a different story.

Today, they're trying very, very hard to cause men to be careful with their thoughts and

what they say.

And God forbid you say something that's going to offend somebody, you're walking on eggshells.

I don't know many leaders that I call leaders, who walk on eggshells, that are not comfortable

sharing their thoughts on different issues.

They share their thoughts, but they get better at their soft skills to know how to deliver

their messages better.

That's something you're going to get better at for the rest of your life.

But walking on eggshells in society where you're sitting there by yourself, not really

sharing your thoughts, it's as if you don't exist.

You're non-existent.

And that's just not what men's men do.

The next thing I want to talk to you about is competition.

Society wants to convince you that competition is not healthy for you.

By the way, the same people that are selling you that are those who lost, who don't know

how to handle it.

The reality of it is, socialist boys have limited options.

Capitalist men have unlimited options in every aspect of their life.

Where they live, where they travel to, where they eat, who they date, anything you want.

They have an unlimited supply of options and unfortunately, those who don't compete don't

like the fact that you have more options.

You know, when I was 14 years old, I was playing in this basketball association for troubled

teenagers.

I'm in a league with Mara Sabatrucha, with Black Diamonds, with you know, the Sureños,

18, with the Blood Crip, all these guys.

And one day, we're in this tournament, and only five of our players showed up and we

played against a team that had a full lineup, and we lost by 104 points.

The Rise Of Weak Men (1) Der Aufstieg der schwachen Männer (1) El ascenso de los hombres débiles (1) La montée des hommes faibles (1) 弱者の台頭 (1) A ascensão dos homens fracos (1) 弱者崛起 (1) 弱者的崛起 (1)

What is it to be a man's man today? 今天成为男人的男人是什么?

I mean, I grew up wanting to be a man's man. Ich meine, ich bin damit aufgewachsen, ein Mann sein zu wollen. 我的意思是,我从小就想成为一个男人的男人。

That's what you wanted to be, but today it's toxic masculinity, right? Das wollten Sie sein, aber heute ist es toxische Maskulinität, richtig? 这就是你想成为的人,但今天这是有毒的男子气概,对吧?

You're hearing it everywhere. 你到处都能听到。

People are being canceled for being a man's man. 人们因为成为男人的男人而被取消。

But the reality of it is, 1944, a man's man was storming the beaches of Normandy and they 但现实是,1944 年,一个男人的男人席卷了诺曼底的海滩,他们

knew most of them were going to lose their lives, but they're like, nope, I'm doing this 知道他们中的大多数人会失去生命,但他们就像,不,我正在做这个

because this is what men are supposed to do. потому что это то, что должны делать мужчины. 因为这是男人应该做的。

Today, people are storming the beaches of their couch to play Call of Duty. 今天,人们冲进沙发的海滩玩《使命召唤》。

40, 50 years ago, without social media, we had to go learn how to pick up girls and flirt Vor 40, 50 Jahren, ohne soziale Medien, mussten wir lernen, wie man Mädchen aufreißt und flirtet. 40、50 年前,没有社交媒体,我们不得不去学习如何泡妞和调情

and have lines and be rejected. и иметь очереди и быть отвергнутым. 并且有台词而被拒绝。

Today, you just got to swipe right. Сегодня нужно просто провести пальцем вправо. 今天,您只需向右滑动即可。

Years ago, you had to learn how to hunt to get your food. 多年前,您必须学习如何打猎才能获得食物。

Today, you just call Uber Eats. 今天,您只需致电 Uber Eats。

Lots changed. 很多都变了。

Are men becoming pansies? Мужчины становятся трусихами? 男人会变成三色堇吗?

Are they becoming soft? 他们变软了吗?

Are we becoming passive, like, oh my gosh, betas? Становимся ли мы пассивными, как, о боже, беты? 我们会变得被动吗,天哪,beta?

Is that what's happening? 这是怎么回事?

I got a bunch of data I want to talk to you about that has to do with what we bench-pressed 我有一堆数据我想和你谈谈这与我们卧推的事情有关

30 years ago versus today, squat, our grip strength, a bunch of different things that 30 年前与今天的对比,深蹲,我们的握力,一堆不同的东西

are influencing men to become softer. влияют на мужчин, делая их более мягкими. 正在影响男人变得更柔软。

And for some of you that are watching this that completely disagree with my message, 对于正在看这篇文章但完全不同意我的信息的你们中的一些人,

I would love to have you watch this message and post your commentary below at the end

of the video. 的视频。

Stick around until the very end, I got a quiz for you to take to know exactly what you're Оставайтесь здесь до самого конца, у меня для вас есть викторина, чтобы точно знать, что вы 坚持到最后,我有一个小测验让你知道你到底是什么

driven by, but it's important for us to look at some of the data to know if this is just 由驱动,但重要的是我们要查看一些数据以了解这是否只是

gibberish or how are men really viewed and what kind of a life men live today. тарабарщина или как на самом деле относятся к мужчинам и какой жизнью живут мужчины сегодня. 胡言乱语或如何真正看待男人以及男人今天过着什么样的生活。

Before we get into it, I just want to give you some stats on is there any relevance in Прежде чем мы перейдем к этому, я просто хочу предоставить вам некоторые статистические данные о том, есть ли смысл в 在我们开始之前,我只想给你一些统计数据

men really struggling today? мужчины сегодня действительно борются? 今天的男人真的很挣扎吗?

Like, they can't find themselves. 就像,他们找不到自己。

Are they really becoming softer or not? 他们真的变软了吗?

Scott Galloway wrote an article, the title was The Most Dangerous Person in the World Scott Galloway 写了一篇文章,标题是世界上最危险的人

is a Young Man Who's Broke and Alone. 是一个破产和孤独的年轻人。

Let me read some of the statistics that he has in this article. 让我读一读他在这篇文章中的一些统计数据。

Men are more likely to use almost all types of illicit drugs at a higher rate than women, 与女性相比,男性更有可能以更高的比率使用几乎所有类型的非法药物,

thus, their higher prevalence of emergency room visits and inpatient substance abuse

treatment.

93% of prison inmates are male, as are 98% of all death row inmates.

Men are dramatically more likely to be homeless and for longer periods of time. Мужчины значительно чаще оказываются бездомными и в течение более длительного периода времени.

Men now account for 41% of college enrollments, down from 60% in 1970. В настоящее время на долю мужчин приходится 41% поступающих в колледжи, по сравнению с 60% в 1970 году.

Men are twice as likely to overdose, three and a half times more likely to commit suicide,

and more than nine times more likely to be incarcerated.

A recent study revealed that nine out of ten mass violent attackers were male, and more Недавнее исследование показало, что девять из десяти участников массовых насильственных нападений были мужчинами, а более

than two thirds of them were under the age of 35.

Once again, the most dangerous person in the world is a broke and alone young male.

Scott Galloway recommends three things.

Start making money.

We are living in a capitalist society.

Get super strong.

You want to be fit. Вы хотите быть в форме.

You want to lift heavy weights and run long distances in your mind and in the gym.

And last but not least, get out there.

Commit to meeting people. Обязательно встречайтесь с людьми.

And quite frankly, try having sex.

So interesting three points he makes, right?

Start making money today.

Get super strong.

And finally, get out there and commit to meeting people.

But are we not stronger today than we were before?

Let's take a look at some data to see if men are stronger today than maybe 20 or 30 years

ago.

There's three things I want to look at.

I want to look at our bench press to before, squat, as well as your grip strength.

They say your grip strength is a strong predicator of mortality in later life.

So are we stronger today or before?

Here's what the numbers tell us.

So they surveyed 1800 lifters, ages 20 to 39, to see what the average bench press was

30 years ago versus today.

And here's what they came up with.

What the average man could bench press 30 years ago versus today.

30 years ago was 240 pounds versus today, 187 pounds.

Squat was 277 versus today, 225.

So when you look at this data, how do you process it?

Grip strength, bench, squat, like, why are we looking at this data?

Maybe, just maybe, they're trying to get women to become stronger and men to become weaker.

Maybe.

Maybe I'm wrong.

I will tell you, at our vault conference we had with a couple thousand people there, business

owners, entrepreneurs, I challenged everybody to go do a certain questionnaire the first

night and the next day come and share their breakthrough with everybody. ночью, а на следующий день приходят и делятся своим прорывом со всеми.

While I'm going through everyone, a lady sitting right here, like seven rows right there, she

gets up and she says, Patrick, I have to tell you my breakthrough last night.

I said, what is it?

She said, for the last 20 years, all I've been trying to do is compete against men to

prove that I can make as much money as they make.

I'm strong.

I don't need them.

I'm independent.

I run a very successful salon.

I do very well for myself.

Everybody that works with me makes great money.

I'm very, very successful right now, to my friends, to my peers.

I said, okay, and where are you going with this?

What's wrong with that?

She said, the breakthrough I have yesterday is men are not the enemy.

I want a husband.

I want to get married.

I want to have a family.

How interesting is that, right?

The person she wanted to beat the entire time, now she wants to marry.

How many endless videos can we see with women in their 60s, who bought into the feminist

movement to make men and women equal, are sitting there saying, I regret making that

decision because I'm single, never been married, don't have any kids, and I'm alone.

And I wish I would have married men.

I wish I would have had kids because I wouldn't have been alone today.

Next point is a lack of male role models in a boy's life, or a man's life. Следующий момент - отсутствие мужских ролевых моделей в жизни мальчика или мужчины.

So if you look at some data here, in 2019, some 15 million children in the United States

were living with a single mother.

That's about five times more than those living with a single father.

As divorce rates rise, and family courts continue to favor mothers, the amount of boys living

without a dad will continue to grow.

So why is this so important?

There are certain things I can tell my boys, that my wife can't tell them.

Period. Период.

I can go tell my boys, we're going outside and we're playing, they have to listen to

it.

I can go tell my boys, you have to read 20 pages a day.

They may tell mom, mom, I'm good, I don't need to read today, I don't need to do this,

I don't need to do that.

There's just certain things my dad could have told me that my mom couldn't tell me.

There's a very, very big value that men have in a boy's life.

But the more divorces we get, and the more fatherless homes that we have, men don't know

what it is to be a man's man.

As a matter of fact, let's look at a completely different angle.

Most kids who go to school, most teachers are women.

Most teachers are not men.

So I just recently had my kids watch Captain, the documentary about Derek Jeter, and there's

a scene in this documentary where Derek Jeter is drafted by the Yankees, his dream becomes сцена в этом документальном фильме, где Дерек Джитер задрафтован "Янкиз", его мечта становится

a reality, always wanted to be a shortstop for them because his dad was a shortstop.

He goes, but he's not doing well.

He's making errors, he's making mistakes, he's doing all this stuff, and he's having

anxiety attacks, he's depressed almost, and he makes a phone call to his house.

Mom's talking to Derek, and mom says, son, why don't you just come home?

The father says, when I heard my wife saying this to Jeter, he says, I told her, don't

tell him that.

He can't know that's an option.

So now, let's replay this.

Say the father's not in the picture.

Say the mom's able to convince Derek Jeter to come home because no mother wants to see

their son suffer.

And she's witnessing her son, Derek, suffer.

But the father says, that's what builds character.

Let him go through it.

If that doesn't happen, you don't have a 5-time World Series champion, a few hundred million

dollars, one of the greatest Yankees of all time, 3,400 hits.

If that simple call by the father wasn't made, you and I may not know who Derek Jeter is.

So what's the point here?

So maybe men today need stronger role models to challenge them and to show them, it is

okay to go through challenges.

It is okay to have to fight through.

This is a part of becoming a man's man, and it's natural.

Next point is the walking on eggshells society that we're living in today.

And what do I mean by walking on eggshells?

People are afraid of offending today, okay?

So when you're afraid of offending, you don't want to share your opinion.

And the way people learn who you really are is by sharing your opinion and feelings about

different issues.

Now, in our family, I talk about four things with my boys.

We lead, we respect, we improve, we love.

Respect.

Let's talk about that.

If you constantly spend your life disrespecting people, you're eventually going to be alone

and not successful in business, because it doesn't work out if you want to disrespect

everybody.

People are not going to stick around in a work environment if you're disrespecting them.

People are not going to be with you friendship-wise if you're constantly disrespecting them and

judging them.

And quite frankly, you're going to be by yourself.

Now, offending is a different story.

Today, they're trying very, very hard to cause men to be careful with their thoughts and

what they say.

And God forbid you say something that's going to offend somebody, you're walking on eggshells.

I don't know many leaders that I call leaders, who walk on eggshells, that are not comfortable

sharing their thoughts on different issues.

They share their thoughts, but they get better at their soft skills to know how to deliver

their messages better.

That's something you're going to get better at for the rest of your life.

But walking on eggshells in society where you're sitting there by yourself, not really

sharing your thoughts, it's as if you don't exist.

You're non-existent.

And that's just not what men's men do.

The next thing I want to talk to you about is competition.

Society wants to convince you that competition is not healthy for you.

By the way, the same people that are selling you that are those who lost, who don't know

how to handle it.

The reality of it is, socialist boys have limited options.

Capitalist men have unlimited options in every aspect of their life.

Where they live, where they travel to, where they eat, who they date, anything you want.

They have an unlimited supply of options and unfortunately, those who don't compete don't

like the fact that you have more options.

You know, when I was 14 years old, I was playing in this basketball association for troubled

teenagers.

I'm in a league with Mara Sabatrucha, with Black Diamonds, with you know, the Sureños,

18, with the Blood Crip, all these guys.

And one day, we're in this tournament, and only five of our players showed up and we

played against a team that had a full lineup, and we lost by 104 points.