Reunite with a Child Given up for Adoption

Dr.

Laura: Im Dr. Laura Schlesinger. Judy, welcome to the program.

Judy: Yes. I have a question for you. Im 42 years old and I had a baby about 25 years ago. My parents sent me away and I gave the baby up for adoption. It was a closed adoption. Of course, now, they are opened and she went through a service, you know, to search for her biological mother and she's found me. I'm not sure what I want to do. Im happily married for 15 years. My husband and I never wanted children. Hes not even interested in having anything to do with a child I gave up for adoption.

Dr. Laura: I'm sorry, and? Judy: And I'm just kind of wondering what your take is on this. I mean, do you keep contact with them?

Dr. Laura: Thats a personal choice.

Judy: Yeah, well, it is. Its kind of scary. You never know what they want either.

Dr. Laura: That's correct. Judy: Yeah?

Dr. Laura: That is a problem. Once you've opened that door it sometimes leads to places you dont want to be Judy: Right.

Dr. Laura: and pressures you don't want to have. You gave her life where a lot of people just had their baby sucked into sinks. You gave her life. You didn't leave her in a trash bin. You gave her life and you gave her to a family and she had her life and you don't owe her. You may be curious, but curiosity killed the cat.

Judy: Right.

Dr. Laura: So, if this is not something your husband wishes to join in with you and you've never wanted to have kids, you may decide to pass on this. Judy: Right.

Dr. Laura: But don't operate just out of curiosity because it's not a door you open and slam close easily. Judy: Right.

That's what I'm afraid of. Yeah. Okay. Well, thank you very much for your opinion. I appreciate it.

Dr. Laura: Well, thank you very much for being a hero and putting that child up for adoption and giving her life. A lot of people don't like to be inconvenienced and upset and so that's why you are a hero. Judy: Thank you very much. Thank you, Dr. Laura.

Dr. Laura: Take care. Bye, bye.

Judy: Bye.

Dr. Laura: I mean every syllable of that.