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Good voice 3, ENGLISH SPEECH | KRISTEN BELL: Build Your Tribe (English Subtitles)

ENGLISH SPEECH | KRISTEN BELL: Build Your Tribe (English Subtitles)

Hello, good morning, class of 2019.

Thank you so much for having me.

It is an incredible honor to stand here before you today.

Thank you to the faculty, to the guests, the families, and to all the gorgeous students

among us who are beyond the shadow of a doubt, nursing, raging hangovers and praying that

this Disney princess keeps the let it go.

Metaphors to a minimum.

So, I see you.

I got you.

I want to start today by sharing a secret about myself that you might not know.

I did not graduate from college.

Dean is in a full flop sweat thinking.

Oh my God, nobody double-checked.

I had a feeling when I saw her outfit because no one with a respectable degree would wear

hoops of that size.

Who let her in here.

But that leads me to another thing about me, which is, um, I'm nice.

And as it turns out, when you are nice, people tend to overlook a lot.

In some cases, this could include experience, credentials, not having your driver's license

at airport security.

And yes, that's a true story twice.

And you might say, Kristen, no, that's not a result to being nice.

That's the result and the privilege of being a recognizable person, and okay, that may

be true, but I will counter with my husband who is also highly recognizable and doesn't

get away with anything.

Literally 10 out of 10 times he is getting a pat-down at TSA, and that's because he's

just not as nice as me.

Don't get me wrong.

I love him; I love him.

He's brilliant; he's hilarious.

He's, literally, my favorite person, but he's even nicest person.

I don't know guys.

I just don't know, and I tell you this at the risk of divorce because I can't offer

you the tricks of how to wield your shining diploma to ensure success.

I can't tell you the answer to the age-old actor's dilemma.

Should I move to New York?

Should I stay in LA?

And for goodness sakes, I cannot tell you what a Magna Carta is or what it even does.

I literally don't know.

I don't have to answer any of those questions.

And let me tell you a secret.

Nobody has the answer to those questions.

My soul trick to share with you is when you listen, when you really listen to people,

when you listen as fiercely as you want to be heard, when you respect the idea that you

are sharing the earth with other humans, when you lead with your nice foot forward, you'll

win every time.

It might not be today, it might not be tomorrow, but it comes back to you when you need it.

We live in an age of instant gratification, of immediate likes and it is uncomfortable

to have to wait to see the dividends of your kindness, but I promise you it will appear

exactly when you need it.

It will appear at the precise moment when you pass gas in an elevator, and everyone

blames your husband instead of you.

That is when the boomerang of kindness hits you back.

It's also a very true story.

Numerous times over, though it wouldn't be fair if I just waxed

on about kindness and I didn't also include its inevitable downside it's relevant to know

that sometimes when you choose nice, it does come with a price tag.

Being nice sometimes means avoiding the obvious joke.

Like for instance, I'm me, and I've chosen this path, this speech to be nice at an institution

like this.

I am choosing not to reference aunt Becky in any way shape.

Thank you.

In fact, I'm so nice.

I'm not even going to mention my actual aunt, Becky for fear.

It is simply too close to the fire and let me be real.

Removing those jokes is a bit of a sacrifice but, but dare I say prioritizing your emotional

intelligence over your logical intelligence can at times feel like a compromise but it

does pay off.

You were right to pay off not.

It was not the best choice of words for this particular.

I'm not; I'm not perfect.

I'm not, I'm not perfect, but I am trying, and you know what I should have led with that.

I am by no means perfect.

I am also not telling you what to do.

I mean, my second child is the result of unprotected makeup, sex in a hot tub in the Hawaiian islands.

I am in no position to give advice.

Hand to God.

I can't do it.

All I can do is share my experience with you.

My husband always says, if you see someone who has what you want, ask them how they got

it.

Unfortunately, Beyonce has yet to reply to my emails, so I don't have all the answers

yet, but she will like, don't worry.

She's definitely going to, so I'm pretty sure I say this because if there is anything about

my life that seems even slightly aspirational, hopefully, some of this will be helpful to

you.

And if not, feel free to slowly pull the flask hiding in your underwear out and just have

it.

I'm not your mom.

You know what I mean?

It's if it's not hurting anyone, great.

Get yours, and you know what, maybe share some with your neighbors.

Now the tricky thing about finding someone who has what you want is it; you also have

to know what you want.

Right?

So that seems simple enough, but it's actually very hard because our brains are arrogant

assholes.

The brain thinks it's running the show, but the heart is secretly pulling strings.

It's very true.

Our brains are the King Joffrey of our bodies, and our hearts are the granny Tyrell, right?

Very true.

We think we know what we want, but we often have no idea what we need, and because of

that, we often approach life with one goal, and we end up finding our real purpose along

the way.

When I left New York, and I came to LA, I had the singular goal of becoming the lead

on a TV show.

I had gained some experience in New York, playing a naive weed, obsessed sexpot, and

reefer madness.

I thought, perfect, I'm ready for Los Angeles.

Surely I will be embraced immediately.

So I hopped on a plane.

I arrived in the land where the streets are soaked in sunshine and self-tanner residue.

I had the confidence of an overserved freshmen at a frat party.

I was like, here I am, and I began the process of auditioning, which it's really just a condensed

way to say driving back and forth to Santa Monica in rush hour traffic, but the feedback

that I received was that I was always either too young, too old, too cute, too plain, too

smart, too ditzy.

It was as if goldilocks were every casting director and I just couldn't nail it, and

eventually, I started booking some costar and guest star roles, but my coveted lead

alluded me, and I would go to bed negotiating with the universe.

I would say, okay, if I could just book the lead on CIS and CIS: Miami, I promise I will

decrease my carbon footprint by at least six in the next calendar year.

So clearly I know absolutely nothing about the measure of carbon.

I find it almost as confusing as the concept of the Magna Carta, but then it happened.

I was cast on Veronica Mars, which was my first show, and everything I ever wanted was

in front of me.

I was earning a real paycheck.

I was the lead of a TV show.

I owed the universe all my carbon.

But once we started shooting, something very unexpected happened to me.

Well, two unexpected things.

The first was Ryan Hansen who played Dick Casablanca's, his hair.

It was the exact, almost too accurate to one point shade of surfer bond blonde boy.

It was like the kind that gives you PTSD from walking along.

Then a speech that you're just like, whoa.

It was terrifying, and I loved it.

The second was that despite the recognition of my dream, I wasn't happy like at all.

My arrogant little ass whole brain could not comprehend what was happening.

I was like, how was this possible?

This is what I wanted and what I needed, right?

And yet I had it all, and I was lonelier than I had ever been.

And it wasn't until the boy with the surfer's hair invited me to his birthday party after

hours offset away from work that everything changed.

He wasn't just inviting me to his birthday party.

He was inviting me to his life party, to his community, and I finally felt at home, and

I made some of the best friends that I still have to this day.

It in retrospect, I know it wasn't the role I was looking for.

It wasn't a paycheck or a titular character.

I, what I really needed was friendship.

So I want to stress to you, build your tribe.

They will keep you alive.

I'm also pretty sure that's what Beyonce would say.

Speaking of pillars of an American entertainment, uh, it is now the portion of the morning where

I remind everyone that life is 50 shades of gray.

I have to assume I'm the first speaker in an academic institution that has referenced

the book 50 shades of gray.

But we have already established that I dropped out of college.

I have no right to be here.

So this is where we arrived.

I don't know what you want me to do in my, in my life, there was only one concept that

I have determined.

It's that everything is gray.

Every person, every question, every tragedy, even every victory, they all have nuance.

Pay attention to the nuance.

You all in this room, I feel like know that better than anyone.

You know it in your bones because you've devoted your time to building stories, building people.

It's what you do.

You are people architects.

You read a script, and you construct a walking, breathing human from the ground up.

When we create characters, we are encouraged to make them three-dimensional, right?

And acting two-dimensional characters they are at the least boring and at the most extreme

irresponsible.

We're told to embrace complicated characters.

We are taught that you can't accurately play a villain until you find one thing about him

that you love.

One of my favorite producers has a poster over his desk that reads what does the villain

want?

Because in art, we recognize all characters start with an empathetic motivation on stage.

We prioritize listening because we know the livelihood of the show relies on it.

We are good at remembering those things when we make art, but in our daily lives, we tend

to forget when we shift from the stage to reality nuance seems to get lost in the shuffle

in real life.

We don't look for the one thing we love about each person.

Complicated characters get cast out, and we view things two dimensionally.

It's also becoming increasingly apparent.

We're not listening to each other.

Even though like on stage, the livelihood of this entire grand show relies on it.

The great news is we can all choose, right?

When hard moments arise.

You can lean on the experience you've gleaned in these past four years, and you can choose

the nuance.

You can choose complexity over simplicity.

You can listen to others with open ears as if your next move depends on it.

You can Sandy Meisner your life.

So, class of 2019 as you move your tassel from the left to the right and officially

take the steps forward toward your forever, I encourage you, take them with your nice

foot.

And if you take away one thing from this, remember what I said earlier.

If it's not hurting anyone, great get yours and maybe share some with your neighbor.

Thank you, and congratulations.


ENGLISH SPEECH | KRISTEN BELL: Build Your Tribe (English Subtitles) ENGLISH SPEECH | KRISTEN BELL: Build Your Tribe (Englische Untertitel) ENGLISH SPEECH | KRISTEN BELL: Build Your Tribe (English Subtitles) Discours de KRISTEN BELL : Build Your Tribe (sous-titres en anglais) ENGLESKI GOVOR | KRISTEN BELL: Izgradite svoje pleme (engleski titlovi) DISCURSO EM INGLÊS | KRISTEN BELL: Build Your Tribe (Legendas em inglês)

Hello, good morning, class of 2019.

Thank you so much for having me.

It is an incredible honor to stand here before you today. إنه لشرف عظيم أن أقف هنا أمامكم اليوم. Nevjerojatna je čast stajati danas ovdje pred vama.

Thank you to the faculty, to the guests, the families, and to all the gorgeous students شكرًا لأعضاء هيئة التدريس، وللضيوف، والأهالي، ولجميع الطلاب الرائعين Hvala fakultetu, gostima, obiteljima i svim prekrasnim studentima

among us who are beyond the shadow of a doubt, nursing, raging hangovers and praying that من بيننا الذين هم خارج نطاق الشك، يمرضون، ويغضبون من الكحول، ويصلون ذلك među nama koji smo izvan sjene sumnje, dojimo, bijesni mamurluk i molimo se za to

this Disney princess keeps the let it go. أميرة ديزني هذه تحافظ على تركها. ova Disneyeva princeza drži se na miru.

Metaphors to a minimum. الاستعارات إلى الحد الأدنى.

So, I see you. لذلك، أنا أراك.

I got you. حصلت عليك.

I want to start today by sharing a secret about myself that you might not know. أريد أن أبدأ اليوم بمشاركة سر عن نفسي قد لا تعرفه.

I did not graduate from college. لم أتخرج من الكلية.

Dean is in a full flop sweat thinking. دين في حالة تفكير متخبط.

Oh my God, nobody double-checked. يا إلهي، لم يقم أحد بالتحقق مرة أخرى.

I had a feeling when I saw her outfit because no one with a respectable degree would wear لقد شعرت عندما رأيت ملابسها أنه لن يرتديها أي شخص يحمل درجة محترمة

hoops of that size. الأطواق من هذا الحجم.

Who let her in here. من سمح لها بالدخول هنا

But that leads me to another thing about me, which is, um, I'm nice. لكن هذا يقودني إلى شيء آخر عني، وهو أنني لطيفة.

And as it turns out, when you are nice, people tend to overlook a lot. وكما تبين، عندما تكون لطيفًا، يميل الناس إلى التغاضي عن الكثير.

In some cases, this could include experience, credentials, not having your driver's license في بعض الحالات، قد يشمل ذلك الخبرة وأوراق الاعتماد وعدم الحصول على رخصة القيادة الخاصة بك

at airport security. في أمن المطار.

And yes, that's a true story twice. ونعم، هذه قصة حقيقية مرتين.

And you might say, Kristen, no, that's not a result to being nice. وقد تقولين، كريستين، لا، هذه ليست نتيجة لكونك لطيفة.

That's the result and the privilege of being a recognizable person, and okay, that may هذه هي النتيجة والامتياز لكونك شخصًا معروفًا، ولا بأس بذلك

be true, but I will counter with my husband who is also highly recognizable and doesn't كن صادقًا، لكنني سأواجه زوجي الذي هو أيضًا معروف للغاية ولكنه لا يعرفه

get away with anything. الابتعاد عن أي شيء.

Literally 10 out of 10 times he is getting a pat-down at TSA, and that's because he's حرفيًا، 10 من أصل 10 مرات يتم تفتيشه في TSA، وذلك لأنه

just not as nice as me. ليس لطيفًا مثلي.

Don't get me wrong. لا تفهموني خطأ.

I love him; I love him. أنا أحبه؛ أنا أحبه.

He's brilliant; he's hilarious. إنه رائع. انه فرحان.

He's, literally, my favorite person, but he's even nicest person. إنه، حرفيًا، الشخص المفضل لدي، لكنه ألطف شخص. Szó szerint ő a kedvencem, de még a legkedvesebb is.

I don't know guys. أنا لا أعرف يا شباب.

I just don't know, and I tell you this at the risk of divorce because I can't offer أنا فقط لا أعرف، وأقول لك هذا مع مخاطرة الطلاق لأنني لا أستطيع العرض

you the tricks of how to wield your shining diploma to ensure success. إليك الحيل المتعلقة بكيفية استخدام شهادتك اللامعة لضمان النجاح.

I can't tell you the answer to the age-old actor's dilemma. لا أستطيع أن أخبرك بالإجابة على معضلة الممثل القديم.

Should I move to New York? هل يجب أن أنتقل إلى نيويورك؟

Should I stay in LA?

And for goodness sakes, I cannot tell you what a Magna Carta is or what it even does. ومن أجل الخير، لا أستطيع أن أخبركم ما هي الماجنا كارتا أو حتى ما الذي تفعله.

I literally don't know. أنا لا أعرف حرفيا.

I don't have to answer any of those questions. ليس من الضروري أن أجيب على أي من تلك الأسئلة.

And let me tell you a secret. ودعني أخبرك بسر.

Nobody has the answer to those questions.

My soul trick to share with you is when you listen, when you really listen to people, خدعة روحي لمشاركتها معك هي عندما تستمع، عندما تستمع حقًا إلى الناس،

when you listen as fiercely as you want to be heard, when you respect the idea that you عندما تستمع بشراسة كما تريد أن يسمعك أحد، عندما تحترم فكرة أنك

are sharing the earth with other humans, when you lead with your nice foot forward, you'll إذا كنت تشارك الأرض مع البشر الآخرين، فعندما تقود بقدمك اللطيفة إلى الأمام، سوف تفعل ذلك

win every time.

It might not be today, it might not be tomorrow, but it comes back to you when you need it. قد لا يكون اليوم، أو غدًا، لكنه يعود إليك عندما تحتاج إليه.

We live in an age of instant gratification, of immediate likes and it is uncomfortable نحن نعيش في عصر الإشباع الفوري والإعجابات المباشرة، وهو أمر غير مريح

to have to wait to see the dividends of your kindness, but I promise you it will appear عليك أن تنتظر لترى ثمار طيبتك، ولكني أعدك أنها ستظهر

exactly when you need it. بالضبط عندما كنت في حاجة إليها.

It will appear at the precise moment when you pass gas in an elevator, and everyone وسوف تظهر في اللحظة المحددة عندما تقوم بتمرير الغاز في المصعد، والجميع

blames your husband instead of you. يلوم زوجك بدلا منك.

That is when the boomerang of kindness hits you back. وذلك عندما ترتد عليك طفرة اللطف.

It's also a very true story. إنها أيضًا قصة حقيقية جدًا.

Numerous times over, though it wouldn't be fair if I just waxed عدة مرات، على الرغم من أنه لن يكون عادلاً إذا قمت بإزالة الشعر بالشمع فقط

on about kindness and I didn't also include its inevitable downside it's relevant to know لقد تحدثت عن اللطف ولم أذكر أيضًا الجانب السلبي الذي لا مفر منه ومن المهم معرفته

that sometimes when you choose nice, it does come with a price tag. أنه في بعض الأحيان عندما تختار شيئًا لطيفًا، فإنه يأتي مع ثمن.

Being nice sometimes means avoiding the obvious joke. أن تكون لطيفًا في بعض الأحيان يعني تجنب النكتة الواضحة.

Like for instance, I'm me, and I've chosen this path, this speech to be nice at an institution على سبيل المثال، أنا أنا، وقد اخترت هذا المسار، وهذا الخطاب لأكون لطيفًا في المؤسسة

like this. مثله.

I am choosing not to reference aunt Becky in any way shape. لقد اخترت عدم الإشارة إلى العمة بيكي بأي شكل من الأشكال.

Thank you.

In fact, I'm so nice. في الواقع، أنا لطيف جدا.

I'm not even going to mention my actual aunt, Becky for fear. لن أذكر حتى عمتي الحقيقية، بيكي، خوفًا.

It is simply too close to the fire and let me be real. إنه ببساطة قريب جدًا من النار واسمحوا لي أن أكون حقيقيًا.

Removing those jokes is a bit of a sacrifice but, but dare I say prioritizing your emotional تعد إزالة هذه النكات بمثابة تضحية بعض الشيء، لكن أجرؤ على القول بإعطاء الأولوية لمشاعرك

intelligence over your logical intelligence can at times feel like a compromise but it إن الذكاء الذي يتفوق على ذكائك المنطقي يمكن أن يبدو في بعض الأحيان وكأنه حل وسط ولكنه

does pay off. لا تؤتي ثمارها.

You were right to pay off not. لقد كنت على حق في سداد لا.

It was not the best choice of words for this particular. لم يكن الاختيار الأفضل للكلمات لهذا الخصوص.

I'm not; I'm not perfect. أنالست؛ أنا لست مثاليأ.

I'm not, I'm not perfect, but I am trying, and you know what I should have led with that. أنا لست مثاليًا، لكنني أحاول، وأنت تعرف ما الذي كان يجب أن أقوده بهذا.

I am by no means perfect. أنا لست مثاليًا بأي حال من الأحوال.

I am also not telling you what to do. أنا أيضًا لا أخبرك بما يجب عليك فعله.

I mean, my second child is the result of unprotected makeup, sex in a hot tub in the Hawaiian islands. أعني أن طفلي الثاني هو نتيجة لوضع مكياج غير محمي، وممارسة الجنس في حوض استحمام ساخن في جزر هاواي.

I am in no position to give advice. أنا لست في وضع يسمح لي بتقديم النصائح.

Hand to God. اليد إلى الله.

I can't do it. لا أستطيع أن أفعل ذلك.

All I can do is share my experience with you. كل ما يمكنني فعله هو مشاركة تجربتي معك.

My husband always says, if you see someone who has what you want, ask them how they got يقول زوجي دائمًا، إذا رأيت شخصًا لديه ما تريد، فاسأله كيف حصل عليه

it.

Unfortunately, Beyonce has yet to reply to my emails, so I don't have all the answers لسوء الحظ، لم ترد بيونسيه بعد على رسائل البريد الإلكتروني الخاصة بي، لذلك ليس لدي كل الإجابات

yet, but she will like, don't worry. بعد، لكنها سوف ترغب، لا تقلق.

She's definitely going to, so I'm pretty sure I say this because if there is anything about إنها بالتأكيد ستفعل ذلك، لذلك أنا متأكد من أنني سأقول هذا لأنه إذا كان هناك أي شيء يتعلق بذلك

my life that seems even slightly aspirational, hopefully, some of this will be helpful to حياتي التي تبدو طموحة ولو قليلاً، آمل أن يكون بعض هذا مفيدًا

you.

And if not, feel free to slowly pull the flask hiding in your underwear out and just have وإذا لم يكن الأمر كذلك، فلا تتردد في سحب القارورة المختبئة في ملابسك الداخلية ببطء واحصل عليها

it. هو - هي.

I'm not your mom. أنا لست والدتك.

You know what I mean?

It's if it's not hurting anyone, great. هذا إذا لم يؤذي أحداً، عظيم.

Get yours, and you know what, maybe share some with your neighbors. احصل عليها، وأنت تعرف ماذا، وربما تشارك بعضها مع جيرانك.

Now the tricky thing about finding someone who has what you want is it; you also have الآن الشيء الصعب في العثور على شخص لديه ما تريده هو ذلك; انت ايضا تملك

to know what you want. لتعرف ما تريد.

Right? يمين؟

So that seems simple enough, but it's actually very hard because our brains are arrogant يبدو هذا بسيطًا بما فيه الكفاية، لكنه في الواقع صعب جدًا لأن أدمغتنا متعجرفة

assholes. المتسكعون.

The brain thinks it's running the show, but the heart is secretly pulling strings. يعتقد الدماغ أنه هو الذي يدير العرض، لكن القلب هو الذي يحرك الخيوط سرًا.

It's very true. هذا صحيح جدا.

Our brains are the King Joffrey of our bodies, and our hearts are the granny Tyrell, right? أدمغتنا هي الملك جوفري لأجسادنا، وقلوبنا هي الجدة تيريل، أليس كذلك؟

Very true.

We think we know what we want, but we often have no idea what we need, and because of نعتقد أننا نعرف ما نريد، ولكن في كثير من الأحيان ليس لدينا أي فكرة عما نحتاج إليه، وبسبب ذلك

that, we often approach life with one goal, and we end up finding our real purpose along أننا غالبًا ما نتعامل مع الحياة بهدف واحد، وينتهي بنا الأمر بالعثور على هدفنا الحقيقي معًا

the way. الطريقة.

When I left New York, and I came to LA, I had the singular goal of becoming the lead عندما غادرت نيويورك، وأتيت إلى لوس أنجلوس، كان لدي هدف وحيد وهو أن أصبح القائد

on a TV show.

I had gained some experience in New York, playing a naive weed, obsessed sexpot, and لقد اكتسبت بعض الخبرة في نيويورك، حيث لعبت دور دور الحشائش الساذجة، والمهووس بالجنس، و

reefer madness. جنون المبردة.

I thought, perfect, I'm ready for Los Angeles. اعتقدت، مثالي، أنا مستعد للوس أنجلوس.

Surely I will be embraced immediately. بالتأكيد سوف يتم احتضاني على الفور.

So I hopped on a plane. لذلك قفزت على متن طائرة.

I arrived in the land where the streets are soaked in sunshine and self-tanner residue. وصلت إلى الأرض التي تغمر شوارعها أشعة الشمس وبقايا الدباغة الذاتية.

I had the confidence of an overserved freshmen at a frat party. لقد حظيت بثقة أحد الطلاب الجدد الذين كثرت خدمتهم في حفلة أخوية.

I was like, here I am, and I began the process of auditioning, which it's really just a condensed لقد كنت أقول، ها أنا ذا، وبدأت عملية الاختبار، وهي في الواقع مجرد تجربة مكثفة

way to say driving back and forth to Santa Monica in rush hour traffic, but the feedback طريقة لقول القيادة ذهابًا وإيابًا إلى سانتا مونيكا في حركة المرور في ساعة الذروة، ولكن ردود الفعل

that I received was that I was always either too young, too old, too cute, too plain, too الذي تلقيته هو أنني كنت دائمًا إما صغيرًا جدًا، أو كبيرًا في السن، أو لطيفًا جدًا، أو عاديًا جدًا أيضًا

smart, too ditzy. ذكي، مبتذل جدا.

It was as if goldilocks were every casting director and I just couldn't nail it, and كان الأمر كما لو أن كل مديري اختيار الممثلين هم من ذوي الخصلات الذهبية ولم أتمكن من تحقيق ذلك

eventually, I started booking some costar and guest star roles, but my coveted lead في النهاية، بدأت بحجز بعض أدوار النجوم والضيف، لكن الدور الرئيسي هو ما أطمح إليه

alluded me, and I would go to bed negotiating with the universe. ألمح لي، وسأذهب إلى السرير وأتفاوض مع الكون.

I would say, okay, if I could just book the lead on CIS and CIS: Miami, I promise I will أود أن أقول، حسنًا، إذا كان بإمكاني حجز البطولة في رابطة الدول المستقلة ورابطة الدول المستقلة: ميامي، أعدك بأنني سأفعل ذلك

decrease my carbon footprint by at least six in the next calendar year. تقليل بصمتي الكربونية بمقدار ستة على الأقل في السنة التقويمية التالية.

So clearly I know absolutely nothing about the measure of carbon. لذا من الواضح أنني لا أعرف شيئًا على الإطلاق عن قياس الكربون.

I find it almost as confusing as the concept of the Magna Carta, but then it happened. أجد الأمر مربكًا مثل مفهوم الماجنا كارتا، لكنه حدث بعد ذلك.

I was cast on Veronica Mars, which was my first show, and everything I ever wanted was لقد تم اختياري في Veronica Mars، والذي كان أول عرض لي، وكان كل ما أردته على الإطلاق

in front of me. امامي.

I was earning a real paycheck. كنت أكسب راتبًا حقيقيًا.

I was the lead of a TV show. لقد كنت قائد برنامج تلفزيوني.

I owed the universe all my carbon. أنا مدين للكون بكل ما عندي من الكربون.

But once we started shooting, something very unexpected happened to me. ولكن بمجرد أن بدأنا التصوير، حدث لي شيء غير متوقع على الإطلاق.

Well, two unexpected things. حسنا، شيئين غير متوقعين.

The first was Ryan Hansen who played Dick Casablanca's, his hair. الأول كان رايان هانسن الذي لعب دور شعر ديك كازابلانكا.

It was the exact, almost too accurate to one point shade of surfer bond blonde boy. لقد كان الظل الدقيق والدقيق جدًا تقريبًا لنقطة واحدة للفتى الأشقر سيرفر بوند.

It was like the kind that gives you PTSD from walking along. لقد كان مثل النوع الذي يصيبك باضطراب ما بعد الصدمة بسبب المشي.

Then a speech that you're just like, whoa. ثم خطاب يشبهك تمامًا، قف.

It was terrifying, and I loved it. لقد كان الأمر مخيفًا، وقد أحببته.

The second was that despite the recognition of my dream, I wasn't happy like at all. والثاني هو أنه على الرغم من الاعتراف بحلمي، إلا أنني لم أكن سعيدًا على الإطلاق.

My arrogant little ass whole brain could not comprehend what was happening. مؤخرتي الصغيرة المتغطرسة لم يتمكن عقلي بأكمله من فهم ما كان يحدث.

I was like, how was this possible? كنت مثل، كيف كان هذا ممكنا؟

This is what I wanted and what I needed, right? هذا ما أردته وما احتاجه، أليس كذلك؟

And yet I had it all, and I was lonelier than I had ever been. ومع ذلك فقد امتلكت كل شيء، وكنت أشعر بالوحدة أكثر من أي وقت مضى.

And it wasn't until the boy with the surfer's hair invited me to his birthday party after ولم يكن الأمر كذلك حتى دعاني الصبي ذو شعر راكب الأمواج إلى حفلة عيد ميلاده بعد ذلك

hours offset away from work that everything changed. ساعات تقابلها بعيدا عن العمل أن كل شيء تغير.

He wasn't just inviting me to his birthday party. لم يكن يدعوني فقط إلى حفلة عيد ميلاده.

He was inviting me to his life party, to his community, and I finally felt at home, and لقد كان يدعوني إلى حفل حياته، إلى مجتمعه، وأخيراً شعرت بأنني في بيتي، و

I made some of the best friends that I still have to this day. لقد كونت بعضًا من أفضل الأصدقاء الذين لا يزال لديّ حتى يومنا هذا.

It in retrospect, I know it wasn't the role I was looking for. بالنظر إلى الماضي، أعلم أنه لم يكن الدور الذي كنت أبحث عنه.

It wasn't a paycheck or a titular character. لم يكن راتبًا أو شخصية اسمية.

I, what I really needed was friendship. أنا، ما كنت أحتاجه حقًا هو الصداقة.

So I want to stress to you, build your tribe. لذلك أريد أن أؤكد لك، قم ببناء قبيلتك.

They will keep you alive. سوف يبقيك على قيد الحياة.

I'm also pretty sure that's what Beyonce would say.

Speaking of pillars of an American entertainment, uh, it is now the portion of the morning where

I remind everyone that life is 50 shades of gray.

I have to assume I'm the first speaker in an academic institution that has referenced

the book 50 shades of gray.

But we have already established that I dropped out of college.

I have no right to be here.

So this is where we arrived.

I don't know what you want me to do in my, in my life, there was only one concept that

I have determined.

It's that everything is gray.

Every person, every question, every tragedy, even every victory, they all have nuance.

Pay attention to the nuance.

You all in this room, I feel like know that better than anyone.

You know it in your bones because you've devoted your time to building stories, building people.

It's what you do.

You are people architects.

You read a script, and you construct a walking, breathing human from the ground up.

When we create characters, we are encouraged to make them three-dimensional, right?

And acting two-dimensional characters they are at the least boring and at the most extreme

irresponsible.

We're told to embrace complicated characters.

We are taught that you can't accurately play a villain until you find one thing about him

that you love.

One of my favorite producers has a poster over his desk that reads what does the villain

want?

Because in art, we recognize all characters start with an empathetic motivation on stage.

We prioritize listening because we know the livelihood of the show relies on it.

We are good at remembering those things when we make art, but in our daily lives, we tend

to forget when we shift from the stage to reality nuance seems to get lost in the shuffle

in real life.

We don't look for the one thing we love about each person.

Complicated characters get cast out, and we view things two dimensionally.

It's also becoming increasingly apparent.

We're not listening to each other.

Even though like on stage, the livelihood of this entire grand show relies on it.

The great news is we can all choose, right?

When hard moments arise.

You can lean on the experience you've gleaned in these past four years, and you can choose

the nuance.

You can choose complexity over simplicity.

You can listen to others with open ears as if your next move depends on it.

You can Sandy Meisner your life.

So, class of 2019 as you move your tassel from the left to the right and officially

take the steps forward toward your forever, I encourage you, take them with your nice

foot.

And if you take away one thing from this, remember what I said earlier.

If it's not hurting anyone, great get yours and maybe share some with your neighbor.

Thank you, and congratulations. Děkuji a gratuluji.