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Big Think, How to Overcome Self Doubt

How to Overcome Self Doubt

We all doubt ourselves.

I doubt myself every day. I still do. It's a work in progress and I think that's the thing about it. It's not as if you say, "I'm happy and I got it. I got the keys to happiness." But I think there are certain things that you could do, which I try to point out what I do in the book, that are triggers. So when you realize that maybe, "I am doubting myself," that you can change your train of thought to get back on the positive side.

And I think that's what it's all about. There's no secret formula in a lot of ways, but it's about recognizing when you're doing those things to yourself — how to correct them and get back in line. I was playing a game against the 49ers, it was a Monday night game, and I had two sacks that game and I had 10 sacks on the year, which is great by football terms.

And I was on my way going to another Pro Bowl, which means I was one of the best in the NFL, but I felt horrible. I felt like I was one of the worst players; didn't feel good about myself. And I went to somebody in Arizona who just reinforced that you have to speak kindly to yourself. You have to talk nicely to yourself. Treat yourself and say to yourself what you would say to somebody else to encourage them. And that's what I started to do. And next week, had a big game against the Cardinals and it was, in my opinion in 15 years in the NFL the best and greatest football game I've ever played. And I think it was because I truly told myself you can do this. You know how to play this game. You belong in this game. And I've had to use that to do Live.

I had to use it to do Fox because I wasn't so sure I could be a sports commentator, which a lot of people think is natural for an athlete to be able to do, but it's not. And then to come to morning television, I've had to tell myself that. To do GMA, I've had to tell myself that. Because I'm as scared and as fearful as anybody else to tackle something new, but I've learned that sometimes I've got to get over the fear of not doing it because I'm scared instead of not doing it because I can't do it. And I found that I was more just worried about being scared and what the repercussions were actually more than really feeling like I couldn't do something. And now by taking these chances, I feel like I can do anything. And I think once you get to the point of where you don't really care about anyone else's opinion and you really truly trust in yourself and you're willing to put yourself in an uncomfortable position, you'll find that you'll get comfortable real quick and you can do things that you'd never in a million years thought that you'd be able to accomplish. And I'm a true believer that it's all what you think of it. It's all what you think of yourself. It's all what you apply to it. It's all about the work that you put into it. And if you put all those things and you apply and you really are interested in something, then you can do it. I have no doubt in anybody. Everything is possible.

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We all doubt ourselves. Todos dudamos de nosotros mismos. Todos nós duvidamos de nós próprios.

I doubt myself every day. Dudo de mí mismo todos los días. I still do. Todavía lo hago. Ainda o faço. It’s a work in progress and I think that’s the thing about it. Es un trabajo en progreso y creo que eso es lo que pasa. それは進行中の作業であり、それが問題だと思います。 É um trabalho em curso e penso que é isso que o caracteriza. It’s not as if you say, "I’m happy and I got it. No es como si dijeras: "Estoy feliz y lo tengo". 「私は幸せで、それを手に入れました。 Não é como se disséssemos: "Estou feliz e consegui-o. I got the keys to happiness." Tengo las claves de la felicidad ". 幸せへの鍵を手に入れた。」 But I think there are certain things that you could do, which I try to point out what I do in the book, that are triggers. Pero creo que hay ciertas cosas que podrías hacer, que trato de señalar lo que hago en el libro, que son desencadenantes. しかし、あなたができる特定のことがあると思います。私が本で行っていることを指摘しようとしていますが、それはトリガーです. Mas penso que há certas coisas que se podem fazer, que eu tento indicar no livro, que são factores desencadeantes. Но я думаю, что есть определенные вещи, которые вы можете сделать, и я стараюсь указать на них в книге, которые являются триггерами. So when you realize that maybe, "I am doubting myself," that you can change your train of thought to get back on the positive side. Entonces, cuando te das cuenta de que tal vez, "estoy dudando de mí mismo", puedes cambiar tu línea de pensamiento para volver al lado positivo. Por isso, quando nos apercebemos de que "estou a duvidar de mim próprio", podemos mudar a nossa linha de pensamento para voltarmos ao lado positivo. Поэтому, когда вы поймете, что, возможно, "я сомневаюсь в себе", вы сможете изменить ход своих мыслей и вернуться на позитивную сторону.

And I think that’s what it’s all about. Y creo que de eso se trata. E acho que é disso que se trata. И я думаю, что именно в этом все дело. Ve bence her şey bununla ilgili. There’s no secret formula in a lot of ways, but it’s about recognizing when you’re doing those things to yourself — how to correct them and get back in line. No existe una fórmula secreta en muchos sentidos, pero se trata de reconocer cuándo te estás haciendo esas cosas a ti mismo, cómo corregirlas y volver a estar en línea. Não há uma fórmula secreta em muitos aspectos, mas trata-se de reconhecer quando estamos a fazer essas coisas a nós próprios - como corrigi-las e voltar à linha. Секретной формулы во многом нет, но она заключается в том, чтобы понять, когда вы делаете эти вещи по отношению к себе - как их исправить и вернуться в строй. I was playing a game against the 49ers, it was a Monday night game, and I had two sacks that game and I had 10 sacks on the year, which is great by football terms. Estaba jugando un juego contra los 49ers, era un juego de lunes por la noche, y tuve dos capturas ese juego y tuve 10 capturas en el año, lo cual es genial en términos de fútbol. Estava a jogar um jogo contra os 49ers, era um jogo de segunda-feira à noite, e fiz dois sacks nesse jogo e tinha 10 sacks no ano, o que é óptimo em termos futebolísticos. Я играл в игре против 49ers, это была игра в понедельник вечером, и в той игре у меня было два сэка, а за год у меня стало 10 сэков, что по футбольным меркам очень много.

And I was on my way going to another Pro Bowl, which means I was one of the best in the NFL, but I felt horrible. Y me dirigía a otro Pro Bowl, lo que significa que era uno de los mejores de la NFL, pero me sentía fatal. Ia a caminho de mais uma Pro Bowl, o que significa que era um dos melhores da NFL, mas sentia-me horrível. Я ехал на очередной Pro Bowl, что означает, что я был одним из лучших в НФЛ, но чувствовал себя ужасно. Bir Pro Bowl'a daha gidiyordum, yani NFL'in en iyilerinden biriydim ama kendimi berbat hissediyordum. I felt like I was one of the worst players; didn’t feel good about myself. Me sentí como uno de los peores jugadores; no me sentía bien conmigo mismo. Senti que era um dos piores jogadores; não me sentia bem comigo próprio. Мне казалось, что я один из худших игроков; я не чувствовал себя хорошо. Kendimi en kötü oyunculardan biri gibi hissediyordum; kendimi iyi hissetmiyordum. And I went to somebody in Arizona who just reinforced that you have to speak kindly to yourself. Y fui a ver a alguien en Arizona que simplemente reforzó que tienes que hablarte amablemente a ti mismo. そして、アリゾナの誰かに会いに行きました。その人は、自分自身に親切に話さなければならないことを強調しました。 E fui a uma pessoa no Arizona que reforçou a ideia de que temos de ser gentis connosco próprios. А в Аризоне я ходила к одному человеку, который просто подтвердил, что с собой нужно разговаривать ласково. You have to talk nicely to yourself. Tienes que hablarte bien contigo mismo. É preciso falar bem de si próprio. Вы должны говорить с собой вежливо. Treat yourself and say to yourself what you would say to somebody else to encourage them. Date un capricho y di lo que le dirías a alguien más para animarlo. Trate-se a si próprio e diga a si próprio o que diria a outra pessoa para a encorajar. Побалуйте себя и скажите себе то, что вы сказали бы кому-то другому, чтобы подбодрить его. Kendinize iyi davranın ve bir başkasını cesaretlendirmek için ona söyleyeceğiniz şeyleri kendinize de söyleyin. And that’s what I started to do. Y eso es lo que comencé a hacer. И это то, что я начал делать. And next week, had a big game against the Cardinals and it was, in my opinion in 15 years in the NFL the best and greatest football game I’ve ever played. Y la semana que viene, tuve un gran partido contra los Cardinals y fue, en mi opinión, en 15 años en la NFL el mejor y más grande partido de fútbol que he jugado. Na semana seguinte, tive um grande jogo contra os Cardinals e, na minha opinião, em 15 anos na NFL, foi o melhor e o melhor jogo de futebol que alguma vez joguei. А на следующей неделе у нас была большая игра против "Кардиналов", и, на мой взгляд, за 15 лет в НФЛ это была лучшая и величайшая футбольная игра, в которую я когда-либо играл. And I think it was because I truly told myself you can do this. Y creo que fue porque realmente me dije a mí mismo que puedes hacer esto. E acho que foi porque disse a mim própria que era capaz de o fazer. И я думаю, это произошло потому, что я искренне сказала себе: ты сможешь это сделать. You know how to play this game. Sabes cómo jugar a este juego. Вы знаете, как играть в эту игру. You belong in this game. Perteneces a este juego. O teu lugar é neste jogo. Ваше место в этой игре. And I’ve had to use that to do Live. Y tuve que usar eso para hacer Live. E tive de o usar para fazer o Live. И мне приходилось использовать это, чтобы жить.

I had to use it to do Fox because I wasn’t so sure I could be a sports commentator, which a lot of people think is natural for an athlete to be able to do, but it’s not. I had to use it to do Fox because I wasn't so sure I could be a sports commentator, which a lot of people think is natural for an athlete to be able to do, but it's not. Tuve que usarlo para hacer Fox porque no estaba tan seguro de poder ser comentarista deportivo, lo que mucha gente piensa que es natural que un atleta pueda hacer, pero no lo es. Tive de o usar para fazer a Fox porque não tinha a certeza de poder ser comentador desportivo, o que muita gente pensa ser natural para um atleta, mas não é. Мне пришлось использовать его для Fox, потому что я не был уверен, что смогу стать спортивным комментатором, что, по мнению многих людей, естественно для спортсмена, но это не так. And then to come to morning television, I’ve had to tell myself that. Y luego, para pasar a la televisión matutina, tuve que decirme eso. E depois, para vir para a televisão matinal, tive de dizer isso a mim próprio. И чтобы прийти на утреннее телевидение, мне пришлось сказать себе об этом. To do GMA, I’ve had to tell myself that. Para hacer GMA, tuve que decirme eso. Para fazer o GMA, tive de dizer isso a mim próprio. Чтобы сниматься в GMA, мне приходилось говорить себе об этом. Because I’m as scared and as fearful as anybody else to tackle something new, but I’ve learned that sometimes I’ve got to get over the fear of not doing it because I’m scared instead of not doing it because I can’t do it. Porque tengo tanto miedo y tanto miedo como cualquier otra persona de abordar algo nuevo, pero he aprendido que a veces tengo que superar el miedo a no hacerlo porque tengo miedo en lugar de no hacerlo porque puedo. no lo hagas. Porque tenho tanto medo e receio como qualquer outra pessoa de enfrentar algo novo, mas aprendi que, por vezes, tenho de ultrapassar o medo de não o fazer porque tenho medo, em vez de não o fazer porque não o consigo fazer. Потому что мне, как и всем остальным, страшно браться за что-то новое, но я поняла, что иногда нужно преодолеть страх не делать этого, потому что я боюсь, вместо того чтобы не делать этого, потому что я не могу этого сделать. And I found that I was more just worried about being scared and what the repercussions were actually more than really feeling like I couldn’t do something. And I found that I was more just worried about being scared and what the repercussions were actually more than really feeling like I couldn't do something. Y descubrí que estaba más preocupado por tener miedo y las repercusiones en realidad más que sentir que no podía hacer algo. E descobri que estava mais preocupada com o medo e com as repercussões do que com o facto de sentir que não conseguia fazer alguma coisa. И я обнаружил, что меня больше беспокоит страх и последствия, чем ощущение, что я не могу что-то сделать. And now by taking these chances, I feel like I can do anything. Y ahora, al tomar estas oportunidades, siento que puedo hacer cualquier cosa. E agora, ao correr estes riscos, sinto que posso fazer tudo. И теперь, воспользовавшись этим шансом, я чувствую, что могу сделать все. And I think once you get to the point of where you don’t really care about anyone else’s opinion and you really truly trust in yourself and you’re willing to put yourself in an uncomfortable position, you’ll find that you’ll get comfortable real quick and you can do things that you’d never in a million years thought that you’d be able to accomplish. Y creo que una vez que llegas al punto en el que realmente no te importa la opinión de los demás y realmente confías en ti mismo y estás dispuesto a ponerte en una posición incómoda, encontrarás que obtendrás cómodo muy rápido y puede hacer cosas que nunca en un millón de años pensó que sería capaz de lograr. E penso que, quando se chega ao ponto de não se importar com a opinião dos outros e se confia verdadeiramente em si próprio e se está disposto a colocar-se numa posição desconfortável, descobre-se que se fica confortável muito rapidamente e que se pode fazer coisas que nunca, num milhão de anos, se pensou que seria capaz de fazer. И я думаю, что как только вы дойдете до того момента, когда вас не будет волновать чужое мнение, и вы действительно будете верить в себя и готовы поставить себя в неудобное положение, вы обнаружите, что вам очень быстро станет комфортно, и вы сможете делать вещи, о которых вы никогда бы и не подумали, что сможете достичь. And I’m a true believer that it’s all what you think of it. Y soy un verdadero creyente de que es todo lo que piensas de ello. E eu acredito piamente que tudo depende do que pensamos. И я искренне верю, что все зависит от того, что вы думаете об этом. It’s all what you think of yourself. Es todo lo que piensas de ti mismo. É tudo o que pensamos de nós próprios. Все дело в том, что вы думаете о себе. It’s all what you apply to it. Es todo lo que le aplicas. É tudo o que se aplica a ela. Все зависит от того, как вы к этому относитесь. It’s all about the work that you put into it. Se trata del trabajo que le dedicas. O que importa é o trabalho que se faz. Все дело в работе, которую вы проделали. And if you put all those things and you apply and you really are interested in something, then you can do it. Y si pones todas esas cosas y te postulas y realmente estás interesado en algo, entonces puedes hacerlo. E se colocarmos todas essas coisas em prática e nos candidatarmos e estivermos realmente interessados em algo, então podemos fazê-lo. И если вы приложите все эти усилия, подадите заявку и будете действительно заинтересованы в чем-то, то у вас все получится. I have no doubt in anybody. No tengo ninguna duda en nadie. Я ни в ком не сомневаюсь. Everything is possible. Todo es posible.