Moms, Part 2
Shannon: Hi, Andre, you're on CFUN. Andre: Hi, I got to say God bless Dr. Laura for telling it like it is-
Shannon: Dr. Laura tells it the way she thinks it is, not the way it is.
Andre: No, that's the way she thinks it is. Shannon: Ah-ah-ah, Andre, I'm going to turn you down, I'm not letting you-she tells it the way she thinks it is, not the way it necessarily is. We all have different opinions. But anyway, what's yours? Andre: Well, the fact is, it is a fact, because the fact is-I mean, your job-a job will always be there, but the fact is, the needs of a child-first of all, not even the best daycare on the planet can provide the-can replace the nurturing a mother can give her child from when the child is born to when the child starts school.
Shannon: Right, but does the child-do children need it twenty-four hours a day? I don't think they do. Andre: Yes, yes.
Shannon: Oh, come on. They do not.
Andre: Yes, they do. I don't buy this feminist liberal attitude here, because the fact is, family comes first. First and foremost.
Shannon: Yeah, okay. Well, you know what, Andre, I respect your opinion, I'm grateful for the call, I obviously don't agree with you. 604-280 CFUN, *1410 on your cell. Hi, Nicole, you're on CFUN. Nicole: Hi, thank you so much, Shannon. This is a very strange coincidence this morning, that you should be having this topic. My daughter just called me this morning, very upset, having not to go to work. Her baby is sixteen months, and her little boy is five. The little girl had hit the little five-year-old in the head very hard with a toy, and the lady watching the baby-
Shannon: This is at daycare?
Nicole: At daycare-smacked the little girl across the face very hard.
Nicole: Now our little boy came home and told us this. My daughter has stayed off work today, I am super upset. I'm the grandmother, I don't know what to do, because I just don't think this is appropriate, and no, I don't want her to go back. Shannon: It's not appropriate. Nicole: It's not appropriate. Shannon: I agree with you.
Nicole: I'm so upset. Shannon: So your point being that bad stuff happens at daycare-or can.
Nicole: Well, I just want to share this story with you today.
Shannon: Okay, well, I'm happy for the story, and yeah, bad stuff can happen at daycare, but it can also happen at preschool, it can happen, you know, whenever your kid is out and about, it can happen in people's homes. You know, parents can slap their kids. In a general sense, I just don't believe that the fact that your kid goes to daycare is as huge a negative as we kind of, you know, as we assume, and I think that this new study is a great thing. I mean, if you're a working mom, don't feel so bad. It's just not the end of the world; in fact, you know, in many ways your kids are probably better off than kids whose moms are home all the time. Why is that such a difficult thing for people to comprehend? 604-280-CFUN, *1410 on your cell. Hey, Nicole, you're on CFUN. Nicole: Morning, Shannon.
Shannon: Hey, how you doing?
Nicole: I'm great, thanks. Shannon: Good.
Nicole: I am a stay-at-home mom, and I am so happy that I can do that, and I would not want to give that up.
Shannon: Okay, and that's from your personal point of view. Obviously-okay, so, you're happy being a stay-at-home mom. Do you think your kids are better off because you're at home? Nicole: Absolutely.
Shannon: Okay. Well, that's okay. You'd never know unless you weren't, right? Nicole: Well, basically, I think that the most important thing to take into consideration is that if two parents are off working all day long, and they get home at the end of the day, what do they have left to give to their children and to their marriage? And I think that-I know that sounds quite Dr. Laura-ish-
Shannon: That's okay, she has some good stuff to say. Nicole: Well, and I, you know, I do-why I like some of the things that she says is that she's an advocate for the children, and really there's no one better looking after their own children than a mother. Shannon: Yeah, well, but twenty-four hours a day? Is that essential? I guess that's my question. First of all, when I was working, I remember coming home at the end of a workday and fighting with my husband over who got the babies. Like, you know, we were just so glad to get home at the end of the day and have some time, some family time. It was quality time as opposed to quantity time, and that argument can be made, but Nicole, you know what? I respect your opinion, and you're clearly happy staying at home, and a happy mom makes for happy kids, so in your case, you're right. A lot of moms are happier going to work and are perfectly wonderful parents when they get home, even though they've put in, you know, eight hours at the office.